Obviously, most of the time, people posting about their relationship are doing so because they're in crisis. And so the relationship board is skewed towards that. Sometimes, on those threads, people in healthy relationships come along and explain how they do things. And I'm sure that's helpful at times but maybe the OP just wants to focus on her own problem.
So I thought I'd create a thread where we can comment on why we think our relationships are healthy (I assume, based on my own experience, that doesn't necessarily mean perfect! 
) and what we think makes them healthy. Perhaps people who are struggling might take a look at their leisure and consider if any of the points resonate or apply to their relationships?
In my case, I think the key points are that DH and I love each other. And what that means is that we want to help and support each other. Which informs much of our individual and family decision making. If he wants to do something I'm not wild about, I consider whether it's good for him/our family/our mental health. When DH is doing laundry or tidying up he's doing it partly because he loves me and wants me to have a nice home and he doesn't want me to have to work any harder than he does.
Also, we don't get it right all the time, not least because things change (eg jobs/finances/kids at different stages). But when one of us starts to feel it's not working, there's a discussion or raging argument that ultimately leads to us addressing it and shifts in how things happen. Eg at start of lockdown, DH wasn't working so was taking on 100% of kids. But... it became clear within a week that somehow, I was WFH and doing everything else. Meals, planning, thinking, laundry etc. We'd just slipped into it. Now, 6 weeks in, that's just not the case anymore. DH has stepped up on the home stuff. I have more actively encouraged him to do workouts etc, and am happy to ensure I stop working to do childcare during those times etc, which are hugely important and which he was feeling he couldn't do so was affecting everything else. I feel like we navigated this quite well and I'm very grateful that we're able to have these conversations arguments.
Often on this board I see families where this basic consideration and care doesn't exist and it makes no sense. Why would a man marry a woman if he doesn't want her to be happy and loved?
I really don't want this to sound smug. It's more that I used to think DH and I had a volatile relationship because we DO argue. But then I realised that the arguments lead to change and improvements in how we operate. I also realised that not everyone experiences this. I've had a number of people comment that they can't argue with their DH, for example, because it ends in sulking/days of PA behaviour/ hurtful comments etc. One friend was completely gobsmacked that Dh and I were able to discuss and come to compromises.