he has just really p**ed me off :( :(

[nikcola]

dd went round to his sisters for a few hours today and now shes staying the night wich i dont mind as she really likes it there (as u all no my life story i dont want to go through it again) u all no how his family have been in the past,

he rang me to see if it was ok and i said no and he made me feel so guilty like i couldnt say no so i said yes i really feel like im losing my daughter to his f**ked up family do u think im being selfish by not wanting her to be there all the time

having a bath? [confusion face if they had one] u ought to take a picture of him in it and blackmail him with the photo lol (sorry for suggesting bad behaviour)

he allways has a bath here then hes going to his moms

Oh babe. Missed yesterday. Everyone else is absolutely right. You trust your instincts, girl - I think his family's well dodgy too, and they're making NO *ing effort to acknowledge that you're her mum (and FFS what's this about you not being married - whose damn fault is THAT????)

I do know what it's like to be made to feel unreasonable - I bet 95 per cent of MNers feel that way with their partners or exes some of the time. But he really is being out of order.

nik - you have always been there 100% for DD. He hasn't. You have nothing whatsoever to feel guilty about. Just coz somebody's in-laws want to see your kid doesn't mean that you have to let them; you have the rights as well as the responsibilities with DD, don't forget. it wasn't that long ago that DP's family were making death threats against your daughter - which on its own is a bloody good reason not to let DD anywhere near his family.

if you ask me (being a cynical oldish soul) i think its another control game coz he doesn't like to see you going to college and making a life for yourself.

Yep, I agree.

He's very good at making you feel guilty. Try pretending that he hasn't, though. You are her mum. He may be her dad, but he's not exacty hands-on, is he. DON'T let him make you feel that it's YOUR fault she didn't get to know his family earlier.

Lots of love
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shes not going anymore and thats that i told him x

Nikola, I am so sorry, BUT YOU CAN'T LET HER STAY THERE.

Know I now that this is going to be incredibly contravsial (sp) but I really need to say this to you.

This man is totally under the thumb to his family, for FS he has travelled to another country to marry someone.

MY DEEPEST FEAR: is that I log on one day, and Shireen has been snatched to another country!

YOU CANNNOT allow this to happen, he and his whole family are not trustworthy, and I think that they could and would do this. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE keep you and shireen save

ALL MY LOVE
Kalex