When I met my DP of five years, he would often dress quite smart. Infact, there were things I really loved about his style.
Since then, he's changed careers, worked from home, got poorer, then richer, then a bit poorer again. He's gained weight, lost weight and then put some back on again. He now couldn't care less about what he looks like.
I generally just let him get on with it. My pet hate, which he knows about, is his habit of wearing these big black work boots everywhere, laces untied, jeans tucked half in, half out. And not in a sexy rugged way. Just scruffy and naff.
He's always known I think they are horrible and scruffy but he will not countenance the idea of me telling him what to wear so wears them anyway. The more I complain, the more he wears them so I don't usually bother. I try and ignore them.
His body shape is long flat bum and unless he wears a belt, his trousers fall down really easily and you can see his bum crack.
Lately, he's put on a little weight so his tops and jeans aren't covering his bum and he seems to have given up on belts. If he bends even slightly his arse is on show. Often, he doesn't even need to bend down you can see it just when he's walking.
He's spent the whole of lockdown wearing these fucking boots with his arse hanging out and I've left him to get on with it.
The thing is, I'm due to give birth in a few weeks. I know it sounds like the least of my worries, but I dont him clod hopping about while I'm in labour at a hospital with big disgusting work boots and a protruding arse. I just want him to wear some normal shoes or trainers and a t-shirt that is long enough. If the truth be told, I just don't want to be embarrassed by him. After the baby is born I want to go on nice long walks together and not feel like cringing.
Today, I suggested we order him some new things and he's taken massive offence. He doesn't care I hate his boots. He insists you can't see his bum. But you can!!
I just said, I'm not trying to be shallow or bossy. And if he told me he hated something of mine so, so much, and there was valid reasons, I wouldn't want to be so stubborn. Id want him to think I looked nice sometimes.
Question is....
AIBU?
How much would you push the issue? Would you be that bothered? Should I just leave him to it?