What don't you like about your personality?

[CHARLonodn90]

I don't suffer fools. I've always been told that this is a negative but It's extremely difficult for me to entertain idiots and pretend to be interested. It depletes my energy. Working a 9-5 office job pretty much means that i'm always mentally exhausted and I honestly envy "airheads" and wish I was one. But my mind is constantly thinking of all the things wrong with society and the world.... Bleugh!

Interesting thread - I wonder if the friends and family of the people who have posted would say the same things if they were asked. I think most people are much harder on themselves than anyone else would be.

For me, it's jealousy. If something nice happens to one of my friends, I get a horrible little spurt of envy that it hasn't happened to me. I hope I manage to conceal it because I would hate for anyone to know that about me.

I'm also very insecure about myself and am generally convinced that people are laughing about me when I'm not there. I fund office banter really difficult to take lightly, and if someone makes a little joke about me, I take it to heart and worry that they really meant it, and they hate me, and everyone else is in on the joke too. It's very tiring and the current situation is making it a whole lot worse.

I struggle with diplomacy - I can be too direct (without meaning to upset anyone) but on the flip side of this I don't get upset easily by people's comments to me and prefer people to be direct.

I'm insecure. Even when people are consistently nice to me I have a niggly worry that it's not because they actually like me. This is the one I wish I could change the most because it means I never fully relax and let people in and the associated lack of confidence has held me back in a lot of ways.

Far too many things, unfortunately

• boring, like my own space too much
• get tired & unwell frequently
• get wildly overexcited when going out, talk too much, attention seeking stupid behaviour
• inconsistent, can’t follow through
• messy, lazy, ungrateful for my lot
• insatiable appetite for buying stuff, new projects & ideas
• just a bit crap really

Interesting thread. I see myself in some traits written here.

1. I appear aloof and confident in work settings. I deliberately keep people at a bay due to past bullying.

1. I assume I am not liked/loved even by friends and family. I believe if I annoy/push dh enough he will walk away. I have been harshly dropped by friends in the past and fear abandonment.

1. I can be envious

1. I feel I have failed in terms of career. Did not get into my chosen field and fell into another. Whilst I am at management level I still feel a twinge of disappointment. Particularly when others appear to walk into their careers as doctors,lawyers, teachers, accountants etc.

1. I am not good at seeing a situation from someone elses point of view- only mine. I tend to tell my dh what he is thinking and feeling which leaves him feeling misunderstood. I have to remind myself that only I think like I do.

1. I am incredibly loyal. Secrets are safe with me. I am a friend until the end unless you cross me then I will cut you immediately.

I can be a jealous soul, not of material possessions but with relationships. I can get jealous of friends having other friends and men with other women. This can make me clingy, needy and insecure which I don't like in others but can recognise in myself. Im also lazy and will do the bare minimum at times.

Don't know if this is a personality thing, but - I can spot a bullshitter from miles away.

Also, my face let's me down - if people are talking bullshit, my face just gives off a 'are you fucking serious?' look. It is a curse and a blessing 😂

At work I am confident, stand my ground, respected (not particularly liked but I don't mind this) and good at my job.

At home I am the total opposite. I'm worried that I'm doing a bad job, I judge myself as a parent and as a wife. I'm worried that my husband will leave me and I'm pissed off because I work full time and do the lions share of the kids / housework.

As a friend, I am straight talking , fiercely loyal and will try my upmost to help, advise etc etc BUT it takes me ages to trust people and if you double cross me then there are no second chances!

Snowone
Our traits are almost identical. We clearly need to be kinder to ourselves.