A wave to all the women who can’t wait till lockdown is over so there H can move the fuck out!

[URonthewayoutmate]

We agreed to split up just before lock down was announced so obviously it got put on hold.

I honestly can’t believe I’ve spent ten years with this idiot. I feel like there is some stranger walking round my house. I’ve let him take the piss out of me because I can’t be arsed with the arguments and I know he is loving life at the moment as I’m being very compliant.

But I know this won’t last forever. I feel like a big thick coat has been taken off me as I’ve totally disconnect from him - and I feel free.

I really see him now. And I’m in two minds that he thinks after this that he may of a chance of getting us to stay together as he is having the best time.

Doesn’t have to wash up
Doesn’t have to put the kids to bed or get up with them
Doesn’t have to tidy his fucking plates/crisp packets/drinks/dirty clothes up.
Can take to his bed for six hours during the day to watch tv

Oh what a life!

I silently seeth at points and I allow it because it’s spurring me on to get rid of the useless lump.

So if your experiencing the same - take a pew and we can look forward to not having to put up with them much longer

If he's not helping you with anything I doubt he gives a shit about getting back together with you

I think you sound like a powerful and intelligent woman and well done for seeing him like a useless lump. It's a shit time but hell come down to earth with a bump when he has to pick up after himself and pay maintenance! Have a &

Please tell me your not cooking and doing his laundry?

I'd also dump all his stuff in the spare room or wherever he's sleeping.

Stylist thanks for that! and yes he will as I think he thinks I won’t go through with it. He is arrogant and will see me being compliant as me trying to win favour.

Lou I am doing majority of cooking as I have to feed the family anyway. He is a massive sulker and will put the house in lockdown hell if I start not including him In meal times. - same with laundry.

Me and the kids had three weeks of silent treatment when I told him I wanted to leave so I’ll grin and bare it for now’

Pulling up a chair and pouring a glass.

It’s fucking hard isn’t it? Mine keeps saying he’ll go after lockdown, and then he won’t, and then he will. It’s all a weird power trip I think.

You keep thinking like that. More power you. Strength and good wishes

Iwillnot greetings yep it’s fucking hard. Why does he keep changing his mind? Are you flinging yourself at his feet each time ?

Thank you Burnit

I'm buying you all an epic round

Me. We’ve been divorcing for some time now. STBXH was due to move out early March & still here... it’s awful.

Song appreciated!

Namechange shit have a brandy! Are you ok?

Me too! This is going to suck!

@URonthewayoutmate Know the feeling, OP. 10 years with a guy who just takes the utter piss. Luckily I've managed to convince him to move out for the remainder of the lockdown. He's back with his mum. It's been almost a week now. It feels SO GOOD. Hang in there, OP. It's so worth it.

Trytrytrying don’t let it beat you

SPP1 Christ I bet it does! Here’s to being able to breath!

Mine briefly thought about moving to his dads then changed his mind - because his dads house is a mess! God the irony

Mine’s gone - yesterday! But it feels awful. Be careful what you wish for. 😢

You can ask him to leave even during lockdown. I did.

Misterectomy are you ok?

Wrybread I suggested his dads which quickly went out of the window. He can’t book in to a hotel as they are only taking front line workers

Thanks, URontheway. I’m fine, just sad. Trying to remind myself about all the crap, but it’s amazing how quickly you forget! Maybe you about-to-leavers should write it all down now so you can refer back to it.

URonthwayout... have you got a garden? Have you got a tent? That’s where he can go!

Misterectomy I don’t actually see him that much! He is in the extension room which is self contained. Absolutely loving life.

I seen a book being recommended on here called ‘too good to leave too bad too stay’ and it was like a light switching on. The more I read the book the more it solidified that actually I’d never really be happy staying with him. I’m too young to throw my life down the pan for some one that will never change.

Have a read of the book. It will help you see you’ve made the right decision.

Similar position.

If he has somewhere to go he can move out during lockdown. It's allowed.

I feel like I'm going to blurt out any minute that I want to seperate but being on lockdown is making me think to wait.
Do you think people ever come back from the brink - I've looked at my finances, I have somewhere to go, him touching me in the suggest way makes me recoil, keep thinking about life alone and we haven't had sex more than 5 times in 12 months. We have 2 boys. He had an accident recently and I didn't feel sorry for him at all - can you come back from That?

@URonthewayoutmate no chance, I am fully in grey rock mode. Detached and aloof (maybe also slightly drunk). He can’t stand it.

I said I wanted to separate on the 1st January and we were selling our house with a view to all move to a new town but separate houses. The house sale is dragging and we are living surrounded by boxes. It’s bittersweet in many ways spending these last months together as a family in such bizarre circumstances. We often get on well too but every few days he gets angry about something, a total over reaction, and I’m reminded of the reasons I am leaving him after 20 years of these moods.