Did I dodge a bullet here?

[Mermaidwaves]

I started seeing a guy I met online before lockdown, initially we seemed to have a great connection, chatting loads and meeting frequently. We had a really nice chemistry but a few things came up which concerned me and I've cooled it off with him since not physically seeing him. Its given me a chance to think.

1. Im a big girl and he kept saying that although he wasnt physically attracted to me when he first saw me he really liked my personality, therefore was 'able to overlook my weight' I told him I dont think its neccessary to keep telling me that.
2. He offered to support me to lose weight if I wanted to. Again mentioned this several times. I replied that losing weight would be for my sake only. He commented that my tummy didnt fit the rest of me and if I lost that I would be really beautiful.
3. Told me I didnt need to wear so much foundation, I told him that my make up was my choice.
4. Told me my roots needed doing as I was getting a badger stripe.

Critical, controlling and a future abuser right? Without being in the first period of lust now I'm angry and pissed off that I didnt bin him off earlier.

I didn’t need to read beyond point 1. What an utter twat.

I hope you told him if he had a bigger cock he would have been perfect.....
It will haunt him..
Twat.

Sounds like a tool.

He did it in such a 'supportive' way it was initially hard to spot. Faux caring concern if you see what I mean.

Oh gosh...and that's him when trying to make a good impression....don't look back

You have to ask if you've dodged a bullet? I would hope you already know you have. Block and move on.

The answer is yes.
Your instincts are exactly right.
You can do much much better.
Block him immediately and move on x

Yes Im imagining how it would be when the initial stages were over

Yep, definitely a bullet dodged there. Good call.

I am my worst own enemy about my looks and weight so if someone else criticises me my initial reaction is to agree with them rather than defend myself. Absurd I know

He sounds like a knob.

Like @Divebar said, I didn't need to get past 1 to know you dodged a lot of bullets here! What a fucking twat. Well done for getting rid.

You even had to ask??

I have been accused in the past of being oversensitive about my weight and appearance so I just wanted some thoughts off other folks.

He will be OLD forever with an attitude like that the controlling freak.

Block and move on lovely 💐

Bullet dodged.

Yeah I had a (very brief) boyfriend who “kindly” suggested I lose a bit of belly fat.

The hilarious thing is that at that time was the slimmest I’d ever been as an adult (I’ve always been a bit of a big lass / strapping milk maid type) and I would kill for the figure I had then.

Fuck ‘em.

Agree totally with others! Waste not a second more with this knobhead!

Have you actually dumped him yet? I hope you threw in the small cock comment as your reason!

Oh pleeeease tell him you “prefer a slightly bigger cock”. I don’t normally go in for stooping to their level but this tit is asking for it.

I read it all but i agree, point one is enough to dump!

It will haunt him...

So true but say it as a passing comment, as if he obviously knows this is fact

Yes we are finished. I dearly wish I could have told him that he had a teeny peeny but he was extremely well endowed by anyones standard and he knew it. Damn it

Damn it. Oh well, best not to plot revenge with strangers on a Friday night (after three glasses of wine).

Forget him. Why are you over sensitive about your weight and looks? Don’t let pricks like this make you think less of yourself.

@Mermaidwaves I once said to an ex "just because you happen to have a big dick doesn't mean you need to act like one"

Good on you for finishing with him