Did I dodge a bullet here?

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I started seeing a guy I met online before lockdown, initially we seemed to have a great connection, chatting loads and meeting frequently. We had a really nice chemistry but a few things came up which concerned me and I've cooled it off with him since not physically seeing him. Its given me a chance to think.

1. Im a big girl and he kept saying that although he wasnt physically attracted to me when he first saw me he really liked my personality, therefore was 'able to overlook my weight' I told him I dont think its neccessary to keep telling me that.
2. He offered to support me to lose weight if I wanted to. Again mentioned this several times. I replied that losing weight would be for my sake only. He commented that my tummy didnt fit the rest of me and if I lost that I would be really beautiful.
3. Told me I didnt need to wear so much foundation, I told him that my make up was my choice.
4. Told me my roots needed doing as I was getting a badger stripe.

Critical, controlling and a future abuser right? Without being in the first period of lust now I'm angry and pissed off that I didnt bin him off earlier.

I just binned someone who I met OLD who kept going on about my weight. I’m a size 8/10 - asked me not to put any weight on 😂. I ended it telling him he was no catch and had issues around a woman’s weight. He thought he was well endowed as well, I was very happy to tell him otherwise (it was small) before I blocked him.

Smart decision OP!

Ug. He sounds awful. I dumped someone who felt it necessary to point out my roots etc. I nicknamed him Offensive George as every time I saw him he can out with another soul destroying gem. Funnily enough he was so pissed off when I dumped him even though you would think he thought I was repulsive from all his comments.

Where do these men get their sense of entitlement from? Perfectly ordinary looking guys you wouldn’t look twice at in the street, thinking they deserve supermodel girlfriends who will fuck like a porn star!

I’m baffled at their self delusion.

Echoing everyone else, he sounds like a waste of space and you are well rid. Twonk!

Why are men?

You are well rid. Point one was enough for me to decide that.

Critical, controlling and a future abuser right?

Yep.
Who's he when he's at home, a Demi-God?🙄. Total idiot.

You're a smart woman OP.

Dumping him was definitely a good decision. How dare he? I once went on a date with a guy, who during the date actually told me that my nail varnish was "too" red. That was our last date.

Thanks folks I agree with all points. He was well endowed for certain but definately no greek god and it does make me angry that the most ordinary men in every sense are so entitled. I can be sure I'm not the only woman hes done this to. I actually want to send him an indignant message pointing out his shortcomings but should I just leave it now?

Just leave it, you have the high ground Obi Wan.

If he ever asks you why, then come back here and we can all work out how to devastate him.

Wanker.

Block.

I actually want to send him an indignant message pointing out his shortcomings

You could if you like, for your benefit, to make you feel better. Block again afterwards or delete any replies without reading them. There's no getting through to someone like that.

And typical man to think you can choose where you lose weight from-mine always goes from my bust, so I'd probably end up flat-chested with a big tummy!

Just another voice agreeing with you OP, and everyone else!

Goodbyeeeeee dickhead

Oh dear ! Your make up, your roots are none of his business. If he says he "wants tro help" with your weight, it's just a trick to control you. RUN !

Glad you got rid of the twat.

Nobody has the right to comment on your appearance.
Remind yourself the first comment like that a guy makes, delete and block.

Please block him now and cross the road if you see him again. What a wazzock.

Ugh he is skin crawlingly horrible. Well done for getting out, massive cunty bullet dodged