Hi. I’m new but I need some advice. My husband is really unreasonable with certain things. He’s brilliant in everything else but when it comes to certain things I never know how he’s going to react. Is he going to laugh or go mad?
When we first met he didn’t like some of my friends and they were not very nice to him so I distanced from some of them. Then if I say I want to go out out it’s an argument because I’ve always said I don’t really like going out out. So he thinks I’m a liar. If I speak to certain people he says I’m keeping things from him by not saying to him what we’ve spoken about.
It sounds a lot worse than it is once I’ve written it down this is all been over 6 years. It probably comes up in some form once every 4-6 months unless I’ve really annoyed him and he will bring it up constantly for a while.
The worst bit is. I am always at fault. He can be unreasonable and it’s my fault because I didn’t tell him who I spoke to and what was said.
Am I being unreasonable to say to him he is out of order? I used to feed this behaviour by giving up saying sorry sorry sorry I will try harder. Now I’m more likely to say your being stupid I’m not having this conversation anymore but I feel like I shouldn’t even have to deal with it in the first place.