Does your partner tell you off/nitpick/nag you about any things you do around the house?

[JungleRaisin]

Does your partner tell you off/nitpick/nag you about any things you do around the house?

If so, what things? How frequently? Politely or abruptly?

No, not really. We both very occasionally have a whinge at each other if there’s something that either hasn’t been done or has been done incompetently but that’s pretty unusual.

I’m guessing this is an issue is your relationship?

Goodness no.
And if he did I wouldn't put up with it.

Not really. If this is a recent thing with you, could it be you have been in lockdown together and it’s getting to you? Pretty much everything and everyone’s annoying me at this point!

No, for he is not a vile prick.

What kind of things?

He knows I'd tell him to fuck off and do it himself. DH and I have just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I wouldn't have married or stay married to someone who behaved like that.

No and I wouldn't accept it. Unattractive traits like that jar me. No man is my dictator, they'd be told to fuck off out of it in no time. Anyway No, DP doesn't behave like that. I hate housework and DIY but it needs doing and we both tackle it although I'd say he does more than me, as he's a bit fussier than me. It's never a conversation or issue though, he just gets on with it

Never, because he's not an arsehole.

Never

All the time - passive aggressive comments about whether I’ve finished with things If I put them down, comments about the state of cleanliness etc. It’s like having an employer and parent in one. Drives me mental - especially seeing as I’m really not that bad and if he ever does the same I either ignore it or move it.

He used to because MIL is a martyr who very much does the 'housework is wife work' thing and should be done a certain way. I tell DH that he is an equal adult in this house. I'm naturally quite a clean person whereas he is a clutter bug so when he moans that something has leaked in the fridge or whatever I make it clear that he is just as capable as cleaning up and I wont accept blame or judgement for it.

Never he is grateful and appreciative though he does complain if I shove things in the shed so when he opens the shed door it all falls on him and he has to put it away properly but actually think that’s fair enough

If I don’t put a new toilet roll on the hook after finishing the last one

I think that’s pretty much it

I have an occasional strop about breadcrumbs and he has an occasional strip about the wood floors. But nagging absolutely no.

Occasionally my partner has a phrase ‘can I just give you a bit of feedback’ 😂 and then he’ll say something like ‘if you put clingfilm over the cream after you use it it will last longer’

Which is true I’m just lazy/usually rushing after small children

Just me to be honest. My lovely DP is incapable of hanging up tea towels and can only throw them on the kitchen side or table. Even if he has fully cleaned the kitchen he just throws it on there. I’ve even got a rail especially for tea towels put in the kitchen to help. He just can’t do it. I’ve stopped saying anything and trying to live with it.

No. DH and I say thank you for what is done, we ignore minor flaws and only politely point out what needs to be done when it really matters.

If DH felt the need to nag and nitpick me about things I do about the house (even politely) then I would feel the need to make those things his job not mine.

And as for telling me off - unless I did deliberately did something really dangerous that would be an LTB offense.

He gently nudges me to stop me leaving a million glasses of water on the headboard and to scrape/rinse stuff more thoroughly before putting it in the dishwasher, both of which are fair imo!

Only because I leave my socks on the floor in front of the sofa, he complains, I move them. I've always done it, sit to watch TV, socks off and then forget about them. He doesnt nag and it doesnt cause problems - I'm just a bit more untidy than he is and dont see a issue.

My XH used to do this. I put up with it for far too long, fuck knows why. The day he shouted at me for wearing my shoes into the conservatory was the day I told him I was divorcing him.

No we don't because neither of us thinks we're the other's boss.

Sometimes it's a matter of perspective.

If you asked my DH, he would say I am unreasonable constantly asking him not to wash up sharpened knives and leave them pointy side up in the drainer in the half sink. He thinks it blunts them otherwise. I am more concerned I will slit a vein in my wrist at some point.

Now I'm worried I'm abusing his personal freedoms. Still, whilst he's fashioning a makeshift tourniquet as we're awaiting the ambulance, he can admit I was right to point out the dangers.

No because I would have laughed in his face or told him to do it himself.

Exh used to.

Life is so much better without him, the other day I laughed out loud when I split some soil on the table (was repotting a plant) and realised there was noone there to "tell me off"