I really really need someone to talk to

[thegreenlight]

My situation with my mum is just breaking me. I’m a shit mother, wife and daughter. My husband really shouted at me last night for nothing because literally no one cares how I feel. My boys are badly behaved and it’s my fault. Everything would be so much better if I was t here. I just want to disappear. I’m pathetic and useless.

I thinks that’s the ‘time will tell’ she wants me alone with no one else to turn to I think. That would make her happy which is so so sad.

that's typical controlling and manipulative behaviour from your mum.

good for you to see through it, protect your relationships at all cost.

can you rebuild the relationship with your friend?

having gone through similar, I can't recommend therapy strongly enough. such a weight has lifted. would you consider therapy?

I have reached out through the BACP to a lady that sounded nice and I’m waiting for a reply. It’s a bit of an odd time at the moment to arrange things!

good for you! a lot if therapist offer skype / zoom consultations, so fingers crossed you get a professional to talk to soon.

It will get better, I know how hard it is and I know how haunting the oppressive feelings engraved by a parent can linger. But trust me, you can free yourself.

You can't let the threat off suicide as way to keep taking the crap off her that is what she wants, (that's the way she is controlling you) and if she is any type off mother you wouldn't off been subjected to that as a child or now.

I also agree with PPs if she threatens suicide ring the GP tell them about how unstable she is at the minute you have the messages to prove that she has threatened suicide when she denies it all

Please also speak to your GP. If you've tried something in the past and it hasn't worked, speak to them again as there are dozens of things they can try and eventually they'll hit on the right thing for you.

I know it sounds drastic but I think you could consider going no contact with your mum.

Your husband is very verbally abusive and I think you'd be happier if you were no longer with him.

Morning @thegreenlight how are you today?