Has Anyone here been betrayed on by their husband or wife ??
My husband betrayed me with a colleague at his work- this women has a reputation getting with married men.
My husband was a little different the week he cheated.. distant irritable etc And when I Confronted him, he made it out like I was being paranoid - and that I should let him breath, I then left it.
The day before my husband cheating, he told me that he has an client meeting after work, now usually my husband has client meetings during work hours not after work. It was a little funny to me.
Next morning Friday ( the day he cheats ) he wakes me up with a good morning kiss and hug then tells me how lucky he is to have me which led me to think he’s back on track and out of the little funk he was in the whole week . When my husband left, 20 mins later I had the worse feeling and felt sick which resulted me not going into work -my husband messaged me asking what time I was going work and how much he misses and loves me etc - the last text I got from my husband was him telling me his client meeting is now pushed to 3.30pm and that his battery is low - I read the message at 3.40 and I messaged him back ‘okay hun’ my message wasn’t delivered.
So around 4ish I sat on the couch and logged into our iPad ( we use mutually) to watch a movie but I notice my husband had emails coming thru, I was contemplating weather to check his mails or not, finally gave in and clicked inbox, I see an hotel confirmation email which has been forwarded the same day to a name called becky - I froze and I just started crying, I called the hotel got an answer but couldn’t be connected to the room it was just ringing, and did ask the hotel to confirm who was staying in the room ( they gave my husbands name) - around 9ish I hear key rattle, and my husband makes his entrance with a happy face and different clothes on , ‘ babyyyy I’m home ‘ I confronted him straight up ‘ how did it go with Becky, you had a good fu*k’ ( he was shocked and turned bright red ) and he denied it but eventually gave in .. I made his life living hell, and Beckys too, I told him I’m divorcing him .. .. I did throw few punches at him because I was blacked out. Which I shouldn’t have but no I don’t regret it.
he became suicidal when I told him I’m done, obviously I didn’t let him kill himself. Eventually i forgave him months later only because he was remorseful, he was apologetic and told me it happened because she was there showing him attention and that he got caught up with the excitement and it didn’t mean anything. I wanted details on what happened which made me livid ..I felt insecure ( my husband Did reassure me that him sleeping with becky wasn’t anything to do with me. And he did say it was his fault.
my husband an I we are still in love with each other, but the problem is I’m still mad at him! Why can’t I frikken let this shitttt go !!!
I get so snappy with him , and I keep thinking that he’s going to mess up again which then leads me to believe that I don’t trust him.. Am I the only one who finds it hard to let go ! Can anyone relate??? I feel insecure some days ( my husband continuously tells me I’m beautiful, but this doesn’t change anything.
Sorry for the long message I’m just really hurt.