Anyone had a termination then gone on to have healthy children much later in life? I’m worried

[Albertandtracey]

I had a termination last year and desperately want a family.

Has anyone been in this situation and successfully had children in late thirties or forties?

Yes. Two healthy girls. First one was conceived about four years after the termination. I had an infection after it too...needed antibiotics. Got pregnant very easily. Hugs. Terminations are terribly hard but you will feel better.

Thanks for replying. How far were you if you don’t mind saying? I still worry about infection now!

I was about 10-12 weeks I think? One of the two doctors who treated me (I now realise he was probably anti abortion) told me of horrific risks that could happen in the op and...told me if I get an infection after I would be infertile. I think this is untrue. My gp then saw me, gave me antibiotics and said 'it is ok to feel really sad about this and you will feel ok again'. It was such a kind thing to say and started me on the road to feeling better. Unlike my crap boyfriend at the time, who refused to let me ever mention it as he felt so guilty. Reader, I married someone else.....

My sister was forced into an abortion. Six years later she had her son. He is now 26 years old and very successful in his career and life. An absolute credit to her.
She was in her late20s when she had him though and by choice didn't have any more.

Hey OP

I had a termination 2 years ago and also one before that when I was 16. Both very wrong situations but the last one took me a while to get over I felt a lot of regret I was 11 weeks gone when I had the termination. BUT I’m now 20 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby and I’m with the most amazing man.

Having an abortion will not effect your fertility if done safely, this was something I worried about for so long and I really wish I hadn’t put myself through that now.

And I’m 36 btw :)

I was also forced into a surgical abortion, I was 14-16 weeks but the paperwork was fudged to make it appear it was 12 weeks.

I had no complications from it and fell pregnant first try 12 years later. I had been terrified that I'd be infertile - I completely understand where you're coming from.

You will almost definitely be ok. The human body is resourceful and life usually finds a way. I'm sorry you're hurting like this x

I ended up only taking the first tablet as they said from a scan that it had gone so I didn’t need the rest. Weirdly that has always made me worry I have retained tissue or infection!

Thank you for the replies

I had a termination just after I left college. Since had 4 healthy children who are now in their 30s.

If it was that early that you had tablets and didnt need any more past the first one, then it is massively unlikely that you could have damaged your fertility op x

It’s almost made me worry more as I feel like it may not have been definitely sorted. I feel guilty too

I had an abortion in 2005. Had a healthy baby in 2007.

Followed by two more healthy babies within 5 years.

If you are worried you can always book a private ultrasound to check your womb and ovaries. I did this twice after as I was worried I had something retained or that damage had been done to my womb.

Yes OP. Like a bazillion people. Don't worry! X

My mum! She had a termination at 16. Then had my brother in late twenties and me at 35!

@Albertandtracey I've just realized who you are. I'm concerned that you seem to be name changing and starting new threads about different intrusive/obsessive thoughts over this relationship, the abortion, etc. This all happened months and months ago didnt it?

Are you sleeping and eating ok?
What counselling have you received about your experience?

Who knows about the abortion and the situation with this man, who you can sit with and just feel safe for a bit? Is there anyone you have close to you who can listen to you and give you some care during this time?

She also didn't have the medical abortion. She had the other one, when you're further along (sorry can't remember what it's called)

I had a termination at 14 weeks, opted for a d&c. My ds had Down’s syndrome, a congenital Heart defect and other physical disabilities that meant she would not survive full term. It was absolutely heartbreaking but I couldn’t carry on with the pregnancy. They said she had about 5% chance of survival and if she did she would have to have major heart surgery which she would unlikely survive from. We went on to have another 3 healthy children

I am ok I am just worrying about it all. I was so desperate for a family even then so it was a hard choice.

I can’t imagine finding the right person and going on to have children now.

Kazza I’m so sorry that must have been very very hard. Xx

Is there anyone irl you can talk to? Coming here to obsess about your anxieties is actually going to make them worse over time. Are you aware of that?

Yes abortion at 12 weeks in my twenties and healthy baby in later thirties. Perhaps you are grieving OP, maybe talk to a counsellor. You are overthinking this.

I think I am worrying in part as I feel guilty. Also had little to no pain and was over after one tablet and two hours. Not much bleeding. Feel i didn’t deserve an easy ride of it.

Like you I didn't need the second tablet. It doesnt mean anything. Yes, subsequently I've had 2 children and no problem conceiving. Don't worry OP.

There's nothing to deserve or not deserve.