Anyone had a termination then gone on to have healthy children much later in life? I’m worried

[Albertandtracey]

I had a termination last year and desperately want a family.

Has anyone been in this situation and successfully had children in late thirties or forties?

Chiller were you early on in your pregnancy? How long after termination did you go on to have children?

I think I am defo overthinking all this, it’s jkst made me worried as currently single and realistically it will be a while before I can think about a family and I will be late thirties

I had a surgical termination at 11 weeks when I was 19. Had first child at 32 and second at 35, both within a couple of months of TTC.

I worry a lot about the same! But i personally know of two people where it's not been an issue at all after which has really helped

Yes bit of an old wives tale that you can have problems having children if you've had a termination.

Had a surgical termination at age 30. The absolute right thing to do.

Went on to have two healthy children aged ee and 35. Easily, within a couple.of months both times. Dont feel guilty because it is expected.... obviously if you actually feel guilty that is fine. What about the guy who impregnated you? How is it with him??

Honestly: most women I know have had a termination at some point.

The only.issues.I have ever had because of mine are, firstly, my 12 year old.asking me whether I ever had and having to.dodge because essentially that baby would.have been her full sibling; and secondly, a painful and quite unexpected conversation with a new sexual partner who, it turned out, was wholly opposed to termination on religious grounds. I loved him but this brought home that we were quite incompatible. Especially given his proclivity for unprotected sex 😕

Had surgical termination at 9 weeks when I was 25. Next pregnancy at 33, healthy baby. I didn't even know it could cause problems?

Meant to add DD was not planned, lapse in contraception, so no problems conceiving!

Yes!
I had a termination at 20. And then had 3 healthy children in my 30’s, at 30, 33 and 36.
Don’t worry.

I had a termination when I was 20. I had huge concerns like you OP. At 32 I gave birth to my DD.

I think I am defo overthinking all this, it’s jkst made me worried as currently single and realistically it will be a while before I can think about a family and I will be late thirties

NHS fertility page states 90% of women under 40 fall pregnant within two yrs of trying.

After 40 it becomes trickier but many women have successful pregnancies in their early 40s. Keep in mind 41/42 is thought to be a bit if a fertility cliff.

If you are worried, in time get a fertility check.

I disagree with the posters who said this may not be helpful. Of course you should seek out real.life support, but if support on here helps then please keep posting.

These threads are also clearly on different subjects - the previous one I saw was about the failed relationship (your weird bastard of an ex to be precise) .. this kind is about your concerns about the termination.

(Though it sounded like you were miscarrying).

*this thread

If terminations regularly/commonly caused infertility, I think there would be millions of women without kids who, in fact have kids.

Also as I understand it surgical terminations are more if a (small) risk for damage .. whereas yours was a (partial) medical one. I'm trying to imagine how that would affect fertility and can't (though I'm not a medical professional).

Thank you for replying. I am talking irl but also find this a comfort to talk to mumsnetters. Thank you

Just to add, fertility checks aren't perfect but better than nothing.

I had a termination at 16 8 weeks pregnant. I then accidentally fell pregnant at 25 and had another termination at 11 weeks. Both were surgical, no complications. I have now been trying for a baby for the last 9 months no joy however this has nothing to do with the termination.

Perfectly possible to get pregnant after. Try not to worry

It's very good to hear you're talking to people irl, you should take every bit of support you can from people you trust. Your mum sounds sensible, a good person to get support from.

You seem to be suffering a lot of guilt and distress about the partial termination.

Honestly it sounded like you were miscarrying anyway, it was v early, and you were pushed into an awful position with your ex essentially kicking you out (with weak, manipulative excuses for why he wanted to end the relationship) .. you did what you thought was best.

From what we learned about him the the other thread, it would e been a disaster; he had my issues and withdraw/bailed when you needed him most.

There must be some counselling available for this situation; are you getting counselling from someone experienced & professional?

*has MH issues

Yes, I had one at 9 weeks when I was 19. 8 years later I had my son and he’ll be 1 In June.