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He doesn't want to get remarried.

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Ladyluck99 · 30/04/2020 18:48

My boyfriend and I are together two years and he is currently going through a divorce. We both have children from previous relationships and have said we don't want any more. I know for alot of people going through a divorce the thought of getting remarried is the last thing on your mind. But previously we had conversations and he was semi open to it. But we just had a conversation where we told me he doesn't see the point of it and although he is commited to me he does not want to get married again.
It isn't everything to me and I would not have any in interest in a big white wedding. But I would still like to get married. He really caught me by surprise as he sounded very definite. He said marriage is in the church and its not a civil ceremony. I don't share his view. He feels that if you are commited to someone title's etc don't marry once we are happy and have a good relationship. I don't know what to do. The conversation came out of nowhere really.
We had a similar conversation in January and it was a maybe and now it's a no. I love him and like I said it isn't the be all. But I don't want to waste my time either and feel like I don't have any say. Do I just keep going?

OP posts:
Aerial2020 · 01/05/2020 21:51

OP i would be careful as he may not change his mind. His experience of divorce may have put him off. Or he might have said that anyway and if he met someone else he would marry again

I wouldn't hang around too long if its something you really want.

otterhound · 01/05/2020 22:34

I’m divorced. I wont marry again. I don't want more kids and I don't want the financial complications.
My partner knows this and knows i wont change my mind. Its up to them if thats a deal breaker in future

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