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I need to leave but have nowhere to go

31 replies

fassnk · 30/04/2020 13:19

So lockdown has really highlighted to me that DP is a complete wanker. I've been feeling for a while that he treats me quite shittily but this has confirmed it.

We have been arguing a lot and today was awful, I called him out on a lot of stuff that obviously didn't go down well and it turned into a horrific fallout. We have a DS who is 10 months old (none of the fighting has been in front of him thankfully)

So now I want to leave, I can't be around that toxic atmosphere. But I don't know where to go. All my family live 6 hours away, my close friends over 7 hours away. I have no friends locally (one of my issues, I feel my partner has been isolating me and making me feel like I'm not worthy of anyone except him). Difficult to pack all the stuff a 10month old needs as well, but I'm reluctant to go without him (say to my family) as DP doesn't know his routine and quite frankly I don't trust him to look after him properly.

What do I do? Are any hotels or B and Bs open?

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opticaldelusion · 30/04/2020 13:20

Don't leave without your baby! I'd go to family personally.

Quartz2208 · 30/04/2020 13:21

do not leave your baby. Take him with you and go to family. You are allowed to travel for this reason

Original poster
fassnk · 30/04/2020 13:23

Even a 6 hour journey? Are services open for food stops and changing him etc? Mind you I could just do all that in the car couldn't I.

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mbosnz · 30/04/2020 13:26

You can pack food for you, a flask of coffee, and all you need for the both of you in the car, take as break as and when necessary.

Do not leave your baby.

But yes, you can go to your family.

Etinox · 30/04/2020 13:27

Do not leave your baby, but you can go to your parents.

TimidLividyetagain · 30/04/2020 13:28

Under no circumstances leave your child
.take your child with you. Or you may find you never get him back full time. Take the baby

TimidLividyetagain · 30/04/2020 13:29

Take some warm water in bottles to clean baby if needed and enough food and water etc. You are allowed to travel for this.

Lailaloo747 · 30/04/2020 13:33

Definitely go if that’s what you want. Please don’t leave your baby though. Keep safe OP x

jillandhersprite · 30/04/2020 13:34

It has been explicitly stated that leaving a relationship is exactly one of the reasons you can travel. You do not need to justify why it's bad, there is no sliding scale of abuse set somewhere where it's permissible. If you need to leave then you can leave.
Fuel stations are working, if you need to stop be thorough washing your hands. Take supplies, including old pop bottles with water to wash your hands when back at car.
Good luck... X

inwood · 30/04/2020 13:36

Honestly the baby doesn't need that much stuff, take what you can and you will be able to get anything else you need once you get there.

I would concentrate on nappies, food / milk and clothes.

Don't leave the baby.

Whataloadofshite · 30/04/2020 13:42

Jesus fuck do not leave without your baby!

SavageBeauty73 · 30/04/2020 13:50

Please don't leave your baby! Just take what you need and buy anything else. You are allowed to travel if leaving a partner.

Good luck.

Poodles03 · 30/04/2020 15:15

6 hours is really not far. Leave at midday, be there by dinner time - really no big deal at all.

longtimecomin · 30/04/2020 21:24

Why would it even occur to you to leave your baby?

DianaT1969 · 30/04/2020 21:54

Does your partner have somewhere else to go for a few weeks until you feel more organised to make a permanent move? Would he leave tonight if you ask him to?
If you feel unsafe you should definitely take your baby and leave without delay.

AcrossthePond55 · 30/04/2020 22:16

Don't leave your baby! Where I live a 6 hour drive is considered very do-able even with a baby.

Call your family and let them know what's going on. I'm sure they'll be happy to have you back. Then pack what you need and just go. Remember that 'stuff' is just stuff, you can get more. But your happiness and your baby's security are irreplaceable.

PixiKitKat · 30/04/2020 22:24

6 hours would be in regular traffic too. It might be less as there is less traffic on the road.

Original poster
fassnk · 01/05/2020 07:57

Thanks everyone. Leaving for my mums this morning.

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Original poster
fassnk · 01/05/2020 07:57

With the baby!

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covidcougher · 01/05/2020 07:59

Good luck, a safe journey and all the best for a fresh start x

cultkid · 01/05/2020 08:02

Babies are transportable
If it gets really tricky with him turn off the air bag and have him in the front provided he his still rear facing

X

Shoxfordian · 01/05/2020 08:08

Good luck op

ladymary86 · 01/05/2020 09:19

Good luck OP drive safe

AcrossthePond55 · 01/05/2020 20:45

Oh good! Have a safe and calm journey and best of luck!

SunshineDays2019 · 01/05/2020 21:26

I hope you are there safe Flowers

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