Matched with neighbour on Tinder. What now?

[Heidi3333]

Hi there, just looking for some opinions please.

About 6 months ago a young single dad moved into a flat very close to mine. I've watched him from afar but we have never spoken apart from saying hello or waving when we see each other. I didn't know his name. I've always been quite intrigued by him.

2 months ago I (unbeknown to me at the time) matched with him on Tinder. He messaged saying 'hello neighbour'. I can't really be bothered with Tinder and didn't recognise him from his picture so just ignored the message and not long after I deleted the app.

Last week someone posted a post on our village Facebook page and he liked the comment. From there I found out his name and his profile picture seems familiar. When I looked back on Tinder I realised that it was my neighbour that had messaged me 2 months ago! I replied saying 'sorry on here very often, you just live across from me haha'.

He hasn't replied and I messaged him 4 days ago. However he has received and read the message.

What should I do now? I feel he may have taken the huff because I effectively ignored his first message! Or maybe he's no longer interested. Considering messaging him again or would I better just waiting to strike up a chat next time I see him?

Thanks

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Yay! Let us know what he says.

Tinder ticks just mean delivered.

OP don't play games, hopefully he replies soon!

Just general chit chat. He said it was nice to chat to me finally and that he'd hopefully speak to me soon 🙂

Yaaaay you messaged. This is the kind of post I want to see in lockdown. I love the beginning stages of a relationship when you're excited to text and it's been a while since I've experienced it. So pleased you messaged. I used to always find myself playing games (sometimes without even realising it and not wanting to look desperate or whatever) and, aside from never ending well, it would drive me mad and we don't need that on top of lockdown pressure! When I met my OH I didn't even feel the need to play games, we were both just open and honest and it all flowed naturally and drama free from there. Can't wait to hear how this evolves. Keep us posted OP!

Thanks Talulah, for your kind words.

I have a good feeling about this but time will tell. I'll keep you updated x

Thanks ladies. Well after a promising start I haven’t heard from him for 6 days 😒 I’m not at my flat right now as I’m isolating at my parents house. I know we can’t date right now but I thought he’d at least make an effort to keep in contact. Maybe he was just being a friendly neighbour and I misread the signs...

@Heidi3333 aw that's not good.

Candy floss I know. Either I misread him or he's changed his mind. I'm certainly not contacting him again.