Matched with neighbour on Tinder. What now?

[Heidi3333]

Hi there, just looking for some opinions please.

About 6 months ago a young single dad moved into a flat very close to mine. I've watched him from afar but we have never spoken apart from saying hello or waving when we see each other. I didn't know his name. I've always been quite intrigued by him.

2 months ago I (unbeknown to me at the time) matched with him on Tinder. He messaged saying 'hello neighbour'. I can't really be bothered with Tinder and didn't recognise him from his picture so just ignored the message and not long after I deleted the app.

Last week someone posted a post on our village Facebook page and he liked the comment. From there I found out his name and his profile picture seems familiar. When I looked back on Tinder I realised that it was my neighbour that had messaged me 2 months ago! I replied saying 'sorry on here very often, you just live across from me haha'.

He hasn't replied and I messaged him 4 days ago. However he has received and read the message.

What should I do now? I feel he may have taken the huff because I effectively ignored his first message! Or maybe he's no longer interested. Considering messaging him again or would I better just waiting to strike up a chat next time I see him?

Thanks

Do it now!

God I didn't know grown adults still played silly 'how long shall I wait between messages' games like teenagers.

This is an odd thread due to several different things:

1. The OP didn’t recognise her neighbour in photo despite knowing him and being on friendly terms for 4 months prior to matching

1. You can only messaged someone you’ve matched with meaning you both swipe to say you like each other

1. Tinder does NOT have ticks for sent or read messages.

Weird thread.

Re points above:

I had only really seen him from a distance. We have never spoken closely face to face.

Yes, we both must have liked each other's pictures on Tinder.

Well, after I sent my message to him there was 2 little ticks next to it which I assumed meant he'd read it. Maybe it doesn't mean that. I'm not an expert on Tinder!

You don't want to look keen but you were worried enough to post on here when you didn't hear straight back from him?

Tinder messages have NO ticks. Google ‘tinder messages’ you will see.

Why not just message him today? There is no good reason to leave it til tomorrow other than playing games. If you are interested in him (and you must be?) don’t send out the signals that replying isn’t a priority for you. You have your second chance after ignoring his first message, don’t blow it now!

Op is correct 2 ticks do show but I think, unlike on WhatsApp, it just means message has been sent. Easy mistake to make to be fair to the Op x

Just to reiterate what others have said, don't play games. If someone took days to message I'd assume they weren't interested and write them off. It's one thing not appearing too keen but to purposely hold off is playing games and not many people can be bothered with that.

Good point Lampan. Ok I'll message him tonight.

@loveabitofrain No it says sent after the messages, no ticks involved! I met my ex on tinder and did some dating on there before meeting my current partner so I am aware of how it works! X

Don't be a twat. Message him back. If you wait days he'll think you are lazy. After all it took you 2 months last time.

@sunshinegirl13 I have just looked at mine and definitely 2 ticks. Definitely!

Does this hard to get thing actually work on men? Surely if you are interested, don't wait too long. You both sound like you are playing games.

@sunshinegirl13 I think the ticks are quite a new addition tbf x

Ah that must explain it then as I have been in a relationship for just over a year . I wasn’t meaning to be horrible just confused! X

Sounds like you are both game players. This will never work.

@sunshinegirl13 good to hear you found happiness there! I have only just gone back on it. Asked my partner to leave Sunday but its been a long time in the making and felt I needed to start somewhere. Early days x

normally it is 'meet for a drink and have a chat like the grown ups'. Obviously not at the moment but you could use that strange device called the telephone? I think your pet brick does that too.

the games all sound a bit teenage!

@Loveabitofrain I am so sorry to hear that, I hope you find what you are looking for!

Agree Candyfloss99 then they will have to live next to each other, which is the reason why I don’t get involved with neighbours.

Message him now. Don't play games with him.

Never double message

Ok I messaged him 🙂

As if you were going to wait to message like you have anything else to be getting on with in a lockdown! 😆 In a nice way, you're grown - act it!