Should I forgive him?

[Clairerichy]

My partner of 4 years, started sexting a colleague back in Dec, I found out in Feb they were still seeing each other, our relationship ended, I found out he moved in with here for a week and they were still seeing each other. He has now ended it and moved back home, he says he will quit his job, and that he loves me so much, and has blocked all contact with here, he suffers from depression and was drinking too much, he says he wasn't thinking clearly because of this, and she boosted his ego. We are financially tied, and he had no were to live due to money and no family local. I still love him. Should we try and make it work?

You aren't married, no children. This is a no brainer. Walk away.

Just untangle the finances and walk away. Having children with such a man is a total nightmare.

I repeat, walk away from this. He can bring you only destroyed self esteem and lifelong misery.

HE'S LYING TO YOU!!!!!!!

And my ex and OW seem to live a charmed life.

"Seem".

He says he’s blocked her on everything , then you see a message from her on Snapchat . But it’s ok ,he wasn’t lying, she made up a new account just so she could get in touch with him.
What a load of utter shite . Fuck him off , you deserve better than this

@PicsInRed that's a good point.

I actually hope they ARE living a charmed life because my DC spend so much time there and I'd love for them to grow up seeing a stable and loving relationship.. and I'm having a hard time finding one of those myself!

How old is your DC? My eldest is 5 and doesn't tell me anything really about his time with his father.

Sorry to derail your thread OP but hopefully it's an idea of issues that may occur down the line if you do choose to forgive him.

Sorry for hijacking your thread op, hope you dont mind

@Instamaticgreenery

Its aprox 4 years on for me. Ive had two relationships in that time. First one I wish i had stayed in, but he had loads of insecurities borne from nothing and no amount of therapy helped him. I ended it, despite him having a lovely relationship with DC and me treating his daughter - older than my DC as my own -

I met a man much older than myself who lived about an hour away, he ended up moving in with me quite quickly, due to issues he was having with his rented accommodation (think being made to give it up with hardly any notice and nowhere to go)
We are just over two years into our relationship and its quite difficult, he just doesn't have the relationship he should have with my DC, they regularly have break down moments and I honestly think my DC just puts up with him.

I actually envy you now being able to have your DC and no-one else around, I also found my current partner messaging an ex at start of the year. No proof anything had happened and I don't want another failed relationship for DC. So I stayed.

If or when i find myself single again, I won't get into any kind of relationship. Ive had more than enough now. I just don't believe anyone or anything anymore. Its quite sad really.

Forgive him, by all means. Be his safety net. His doormat to wipe his feet on. Just be aware he'll do it again. And again. Because it's not like there's any downside to being a cheating lying bastard, is there? You;ll take him back regardless.

Is that really the life you want Clairerichy ?