Affair advice

[caniforgive]

My husband had an affair. I want to forgive for several reasons, but I'm finding it hard to stop replaying it in my mind. Any advice? I went to one counselling session about 8 years ago and didn't find it useful, so I'm wary of trying it now. Are there any books or forums you could recommend? Thank you

@Faith50
I hate to tell you this but it is highly unlikely that it was "just a kiss". I had a 4.5 year affair with a married work colleague and when he got found out he told his wife he had just "flirted and sent dirty texts". In reality we had sex 50+ times, kissed every day and had a deep emotional affair where he swore repeatedly on his kids lives he would leave her (but never did). I cut all contact and hadn't heard from him for three years....then last Christmas he sends a card.

I am sorry but you know what they say - once a cheater, always a cheater.