Phone checking

[beanpot1]

I know I'll be shot down for doing it but I honestly think most have snooped their partners at sometime or another...

So my dp has a Xs iphone. His text messages I think still appear on locked screen but I'll watch out tomorrow to double check that's still the case.
While we have been on lock down I've gotten this little habit of when he's in the shower etc , if you hit the screen on locked then swipe up from the bottom you can see if he had a email , been tagged on fb , all general notifications. But now I cant see anything it asks for pin or Face ID so he must have changed his setting a right?? I'm not familiar with the Xs but can only think it's that.. so now I'm stressing as to why he's changed it. I know the pin password but I've never opened his phone for a proper snoop and I'm pretty sure that's the same as I saw him type it in last night. So surely if he had something to hide his phone would be in complete lockdown. Am I being a twat or is this something I need to worry about.. what do you think

What baffles me is i see so many of these posts and wonder why the bloke is stupid enough to leave the messages on his phone! But that is irrelevant and unhelpful. Anyway, sorry you found out that information. They normally say that if you have a feeling and go snooping on the phone you'll always find something.. and you did!

Have you spoken to him about it yet? ☹️

Well this is an interesting first post which has escalated quickly...

I wouldn’t care if my partner looked at my phone, I’ve nothing to hide. I think it only becomes a problem when somebody has something to hide.

OP I would totally check too if I had suspicions.

Quite @FallonSwift

OP, what did the messages say?

Cool story bro

No, I’ve never checked dh’s messages. You’re right, “no need to,” there isn’t. Not all men are dickheads. I do vaguely glance at his notifications if they come through while I’m standing there because our family business has a big presence on social media and I like seeing what people are saying on Instagram and who is buying what. It’s never occurred to me to open up his phone and look for anything untoward. Because he is an asshole and I know there’s nothing to see.

That said, in previous relationships I did look at partners’ phones, because there was something to see and I found out they were cheating on me. I’ve never in 12 years once felt that way with dh. But you need to figure out if what you’re feeling is instinct or paranoia. For me, when it was instinct, it was very clear.

*isn’t - definitely isn’t

Hope the next bloke you pick is better but don’t ruin it by snooping. Maybe do some work on yourself before getting back out there.

LOL what a hilarious update. Drip feed extravaganza as always.

"Old man"

Sorry for your troubles Danny Dyer.