My husband is leaving after lockdown.

[saffy1234]

Lately my DH has seemed pissed of all the time ,off the cuff yesterday I asked 'do you even love me anymore'
He then went off on a rant about how he doesn't want to be with me anymore he is 'done' and hasn't been happy for a long time.He is leaving when lockdown is over.I have asked if there is someone else,he has gone beserk,he then says he doesn't not love me.I am at a complete loss.I have children and we have 3 together our DS being severely autistic.I just don't know what to do.

You are doing brilliantly op. What a cf he is wanting to get intimate with you

Gosh you are doing well.

I would want him out right now and would force him to go - not saying that's the right thing just know it's what I would do. My ex announced he wanted to leave but would need some time and bizarrely even thought I would have to give him some money so he could move out I soon corrected him of that f*%ked up idea!

As for wanting sex!?!? He's lucky to be alive!

Ha ha @TheHoneyBadger you have made me laugh!

Are you ok? Hope I wasn't too flippant and I'm so sorry for the situation that has been landed on you.

I’m fine @TheHoneyBadger it was fine it made me laugh as I said similar to my friend!
I am just a bit shocked,I really love and trusted this man and he’s met me down so badly.

He has. Do you belong to any support groups for mums with sn? I don’t have personal experience of caring for a child with significant additional needs but I see that my cousin whose son has autism gets a lot from connecting with others in the same boat and I hope you have that too especially now you are looking at going it alone at least half the time (and let’s face it more realistically most of the time).

I am a single mum though and could regale you with the benefits of not having to deal with a man on top of parenting though if that helps?

Start looking at practicalities for yourself and your children.

It’s unfortunate he has his own business as he can hide his income and not Pay you child maintenance.

Find bank accounts and accounts and pensions and take pictures of them to show to a solicitor.

Start looking for a Rottweiler solicitor, do you have friends or family who can make recommendations?

He may be trying to pretend he is caring for your son right now to show in court you could go out to work and he doesn’t need to pay you much in a settlement.

Make a list of practicalities and find out how you’re going to pay for things etc.

Yes stop doing anything for him. You’re not longer a couple. He does not benefit from you’re drudgery.

Use the time in which he’s not leaving to calmly go about getting the information you need. Get a really good solicitor as he is going to mess you about money wise, especially if he has someone else he plans to spend it with.

Hi @frazzledasarocki do all his admin/accounts/etc so he can’t get anything past me I have records of everything x

Hi @TheHoneyBadger I agree I’d rather be alone than with someone like him.

I’m on the case @Davespecifico

Ps @TheHoneyBadger I’ve made a lot of friends through DS school and support groups yes,it is benificial x