What would you think if somebody in a relationship said these words

[changemynamechangemynamewhen]

'I can't help it sometimes when I get frustrated my brain gets angry and it makes me nasty'

GET AWAY. MASSIVE RED FLAG

Run the fuck away

I'd think 'can they really not help it - are they lacking in self control?' If they feel like that then are you in any potential danger? Hard to be specific without context but it would set off alarm bells for me.

So many red flags 🚩 🚩 op. Get out of the relationship ASAP

Scarper. He can only be warning you as he knows he is going to be doing it. To you.

I'd think ' thank you so much for telling me in black and white that I need to run like the wind and never look back '

Does their brain get Nasty when they are with their boss?

I’d think I’d heard enough to know this isn’t the person for me (or anyone really) and I’d leave.

Massive red flag. Also, id be wondering if he managed to keep his temper when frustrated by other people, for example male coworkers, or if "getting nasty" is reserved for women...

Run. Like. The. Wind.

Warning you that they can get nasty

Maya Angelou.

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

And then I'd say "Thanks for telling me. I believe you. I'll be off now."

Does their brain get Nasty when they are with their boss?

Asked that. Apparently work is different as it's not personal

Runnnnn

A person who can't help it and who also cares about others would remove themselves from the others so as to never cause harm.

"Thanks for telling me. I think you need some help with that and you should speak to your GP about it before you hurt someone. It's a deal breaker for me so best of luck but I'll have to end the relationship now."

Text it, don't say it face to face.

They’re letting you know that they can’t control their temper , so that when they abuse you, they can say ‘don’t get upset , I told you so’.

That sounds like something my 4yo DS would say. Luckily he won't be in a relationship for a while

Pp has said what I was going to say but that's definitely one of those "when someone tells you who they are, believe them" comments - "I'm a twat and I will just tell you I told you so every time you have a problem with it"

What context was it said OP?

I'd be hoping to fucking God that relationship you mention wasn't with me.

Run.

It depends- if he hurt you or was abusive run like the wind- there’s no excuse.
If not I’d assume he was badly saying it can’t help getting angry’. We all lose our temper sometimes.

How long have you been with him? Has he ever demonstrated ‘getting nasty’?

He’s either excusing any future/past nasty behaviour, or saying that when he gets frustrated, he doesn’t feel happy. Has he been depressed recently, and he’s clumsily is trying to explain this?

I'd be saying goodbye...

@Pigeonpresent There's a difference between being angry and being nasty