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Partner annoyed with me

27 replies

TTlover · 10/04/2020 08:53

Hi there.

My family and I had a Tibetan Terrier dog and she sadly passed in the summer. Myself and my partner have since moved out and wanted a TT of our own. We have been talking to the breeder and have put a deposit down on our lovely girl, Daisy. We were both so excited (and still are!)

Then a family pulled out on Daisy’s sister. I said to my partner about it and he said that we couldn’t afford to have two. I then messaged my parents about having the other (they have been looking for a TT too, but weren’t actively looking this time).

My parents are so excited to have another dog back in their lives again. My partner was fine at first but then turned moody. He originally wanted a puppy that was a dark brown colour but that wasn’t available to us at the time. I said to him that we should just be thankful for the lovely gold and white girl we have and he started to say how both puppies are coming to our families together and that it won’t be special for us anymore.

I’ve tried explaining that our puppy will still be special because we will love her in our home- a family of three.

Do you think I’ve been unreasonable? We live 30 mins away from my parents so both puppies will have separate lives whilst seeing each other on fun occasions. It is nice to see my parents happy and I thought it would be some kind of happy ending but now I’m just feeling sad to have upset my partner.

Thanks (Photo attached)

Partner annoyed with me
OP posts:
bonzo77 · 10/04/2020 08:58

Your partner is upset that the puppy you’re getting is the wrong colour and that your parents have also decided to get one? How old is he?

PurpleDaisies · 10/04/2020 08:58

This is such a weird thing for anyone to be annoyed about. He sounds unreasonable.

userxx · 10/04/2020 08:59

Is that photo taken from the breeders website?

SpudsAreLife84 · 10/04/2020 09:00

You two don't sound mature enough to be responsible for an animal. Christ, he sounds pathetic!

AhoyMrBeaver · 10/04/2020 09:02

Oh, he doesn't want to share the puppy love. What a baby.

Smoothyloopy · 10/04/2020 09:05

Your DP is a dick!

HelloTerrance · 10/04/2020 09:07

Is he 7 years old? Could you swap with your parents of he wants the brown one?

DisplayPurposesOnly · 10/04/2020 09:10

Ditch the boyfriend.

Christ, imagine how awful he's going to be with a real issue.

TTlover · 10/04/2020 09:10

I don’t want to swap and he hasn’t suggested that either. I feel bonded to our girl.

I think he feels that I might use puppy as an excuse to go to my parents house a lot. I am very close to them.

OP posts:
maras2 · 10/04/2020 09:11

Stupid boy!

pallasathena · 10/04/2020 09:16

Why are you taking reponsibility for his happiness?

Oldestchild90s · 10/04/2020 09:18

Yeah he sounds like a bellend not going to lie. Tell him to grow up. The pictures are lovely!

puds11 · 10/04/2020 09:19

@TTlover do you need an excuse to go to your parents? If he has a problem with your relationship with your parents it isn’t going to improve.

TTlover · 10/04/2020 09:21

@pallasathena good question!

Thanks all. I don’t feel so bad now! X

OP posts:
TTlover · 10/04/2020 09:21

I am a massive overthinker - that’s my problem and always has been

OP posts:
HaveAtEm · 10/04/2020 09:23

Seriously pathetic! How can you even be in a relationship with someone so mardy?

OP, you sound very young...please think about how you see your life planning out!

Flixsfoilball · 10/04/2020 09:41

Is your partner 7? How ridiculous

Serenity45 · 11/04/2020 16:40

He sounds like a twat! Sorry OP hope thus isn't part of a pattern of behaviour of childishness and selfishness...

FenellaMaxwell · 11/04/2020 16:44

Keep the puppy, ditch the partner.

Cocobean30 · 11/04/2020 16:52

He sounds like an idiot OP swap him for a puppy

soannya · 11/04/2020 16:54

How old is your partner because he sounds about 12!!

fuckoffImcounting · 11/04/2020 17:07

He sounds like an arse with an undercurrent of controlling behaviour. He seems to not want you to spend much time with your parents (red flag) and he is prepared to sulk (red flag) and blame you (red flag) for the colour of the puppy. Imagine having a child with this wonder. Look for the exit and take the lovely puppy with you.

PixiKitKat · 11/04/2020 17:11

He sounds pathetic! Keep the dog, ditch the manbaby

Fishcakey · 13/04/2020 10:58

He is being a pathetic child.

copycopypaste · 13/04/2020 11:13

Is he 12?

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