Demanding to see in lockdown

[Greenbean20]

Just want to rant really (although know I should end things).
Have a boyfriend of less than a year, has been on and off.
We have separate houses with children each.
He had asked to come round to my house Friday as not working over Easter (when the children are in bed, we're both missing sex). I said to wait until after lockdown is reviewed on Monday and then see what the guidelines are (which now looks to not be announced and lockdown to continue further).
Obviously it'd be wrong to see each other currently.
He's said there's no point seeing each other for months then and hinted there's no point continuing.
I'm disappointed he expects me to put him before my childrens health and that nothing I've said makes much difference, he's just said I should trust him.

Thank GOD! Good for you OP

Well done

Dude is a twunt.

I’m not sure I could date someone that thick to be honest.

I've noticed things in the last few months and that he really is quite thick!

Thank you, definitely the right thing and no regrets either.

Chalk it up to experience... Well done binning him off!

He sounds like a massive cunt

I know that feeling! I've ended things due to 'the ick' before but also had the post break up ick where I suddenly cringed at loads of stuff I didn't really notice before.

Thing is as he’s still’out and about’ you have no idea where he’s been or who has been near him and incubation and the most contagious bit is 4 to 5 days before full blown symptoms , I wouldn’t shed any tears, clearly a shag wasmore important than your health

If I said no to something

This is the perfect test, Say No, early and often in a relationship. How they react is a good sign. He failed the test.

Oh, God, he's screaming red flags. Not only is he utterly stupid, he's also a selfish cockwomble. Anyone willing to put people's lives at risk, and use manipulation to do so, is not worth a second glance.

Oh well done OP.

The heartache, stress and annoyance you have dodged.

Be very proud that your instincts were correct.

Whatva twat.

Nothing would make me want sex less than his disgusting attitude. Get rid.

I'm really repulsed by him. He's blocked, will never see again (quite a relief, no longer, after lockdown! Explaining why I'm going out with friends/taking the children somewhere without him. For the 1st few/6mths, came across as perfect. Then instead of having a feeling he was annoyed, having to explain and hand over my phone! I can't believe I've put up with it! He is so thick and detached from reality! He owns businesses and is a multi-millionaire, only thing going for him! I'm so surprised it can run a business! I mean really thick, he brought up how I was annoyed when Tories were elected, when we're staunch Labour supporters, involved with the local party, actually said 'it doesn't affect your life at home and need to enjoy the moment 🤷‍♀️ detached from reality
Doesn't read the news either, despite stating is aware of current pandemic! I've realised it hates women essentially, wants control and is nasty and calculating. Will put myself, children, him and his children at risk believing all been fine, will continue to do so!) I feel sorry for his next victim (as believe it's not me, this is how he is?)

OP, when you truly see someone for who they are...is there anything greater.

Well don you..👏.....the feeling must be wonderful.

Our gut is our greatest instrument of safety...never ignore it.

Well done you👏👏👏
Happy Easter!

Well done! Next time dump thick selfish twats at the first sign of their true colours. They don't change.

Definitely, I had concerns, after a few dates cancelled thinking no. Stupidly went against it! I haven't met someone as vile as him before. It's scary how I was manipulated and slowly changed and accepted it! As odd as it sounds, thank goodness he wanted to put my children at risk as when it was just myself, I was changing my behaviour! Never again though! Will get rid at the 1st sign in future! Even when I said basically I couldn't stand him, he actually texted 'why am I the enemy'! I replied because of the controlling and manipulative behaviour and the emotional and verbal abuse. He replied he is shocked I would say this! He's a freak, totally detached from reality. That's when he was blocked. There's no point arguing with stupid! :)

Exactly OP, words to die by...you can't argue with stupid..👏

great news OP.. stay angry and focused on you and your kids

Exactly 👌 I'm not angry, just disappointed in myself!

Oh tell him to get lost. DP lives 15 minutes drive away, he's at home with his DS I'm here with my DCs, and we've not seen each other for 3 weeks. We make do with videocalls, texts, online Scrabble etc. Of course we miss sex and being close but it's just the way it has to be for now so we find ways to keep connection going every day. Your DP is unfairly pressuring you. Lockdown isn't a game. In your shoes I'd be saying bye bye, the man has no sense.

Disappointed in yourself??? Hey, you turn a new page and be proud, very proud of yourself.

Don't bother being disappointed, what for?

You have made the right decision.

He's a prat, and you know it.👏