He does not understand the word no and his attitude gets instantly crappy.
Time and time again I try to explain to him it's a shitty thing to do. I have emotional disorder anyway and struggle with affection etc but am much better with this when I feel understood and respected by someone and like I can trust them.
I've even said clearly to him how he should behave and it never changes.
We've been through a difficult time which has really pushed me back and I've asked for patience and understanding. He seems to understand and then it just happens again. He can't seem to be overly affectionate without the promise and as soon as I say no it's like he doesn't want to be like that with me anymore.
How do I get him to understand or do I need to accept he never will? Life is tough right now on top of it all with a 2 yo and working full time from home.
He just keeps saying how will it work if we can't both get what we want? He goes on like he's sex starved when usually it's multiple times a week, even when I haven't felt it as it's easier than saying no. I've asked him to support me to build up my trust in him and show me i don't need to feel pressure and that would be much more attractive and a turn on that this odd behaviour. He says he doesn't say anything about it but it's all in how he reacts. I feel I'm already trying hard with showing affection and he doesn't appreciate it takes a lot from me sometimes to feel able to do that.
Maybe I'm not making sense. Im just so hurt and upset.