To be raging that dp can't do a job properly?

[Boredbumhead]

Do needed to tackle the lawn today. It hasn't been mowed for about a year. Massive piles of stingy nettles and dock leaves everywhere. Do got out the strimmer yesterday. Took over 3 hrs to fix it whilst I cleaned house. Today he spent the day strimming the edges of the lawn then the strimmer stopped working. Then he went for a nap. The day has ended and there are still big piles of nettles and unsightly clumps of dockleaves everywhere. Was I bu to expect him to at least sort the lawn by the end of today so it is useable for the kids?

He's slumped in front of TV tired now 😭

it hasn't been mowed for about a year

And you’ve not considered talking to him about his total lack of help in the last year?

If you let him cop out of helping run the house, raise the family, do the laundry, help the children do their homework, pay his way, walk the dog, parenting, providing, supporting, everything and anything else that normal husbands do, please please please, don’t moan about it now.
Sorry love, but you’ve enabled him to act like some sort of god that’s not expected to do any actual work.

GEt your cloves on looks like that can be removed by hand and a pair of seceters. (Excuse spelling.). It,s annoying when jobs are left half done but you say the strimmer broke.

I would want that cut too but it looks a big job and more than your average first cut of the winter.

Or Spring rather

When they don't want to do a job they always do it badly. Whenever I ask DH to put the fresh bedlinen on not only does he put it on inside out and upside down he also doesn't button it up leaving all the duvet hanging out

He's slumped in front of TV tired now while you're sitting on your arse on mn still moaning about it. You're right it is a mess and shit for the dc, sort it yourself.

Well does anyone know their lawn in winter. Forget the year thing. I mean it's not been mowed since autumn. He does he look after children dog etc @onecabbage. Not sure where you got that from.

Where I got what from?

@june2007 thanks I will give it a go.

You’ve let him ignore the lawn for a year, don’t moan at me if you’re letting him get away with being bone idle!
As for you suddenly changing “about a year” to about the last few months, that’s still not my problem, it’s you excusing his laziness.

@Onecabbage that he doesn't do children etc. He does more childcare than me as my job is more traveling. That's not the issue here.

Well then, if he does “more childcare” I really don’t think you should be “raging”
Have a glass of wine.

Sorry love, but you’ve enabled him to act like some sort of god that’s not expected to do any actual work. Ahh misogyny at it's finest. Of course it's a woman's fault that a man doesn't pull his weight! Jesus Christ.

From autumn isn't a year. Lawns don't tend to get cut over the winter either do they?

Bloody hell so OP's spent all day doing housework whilst her DH fannies around with the strimmer achieving nothing, and when she dares to complain is told she should 'do it herself'

Why the fuck can't her lazy arse DH do rather than half a job? An entire weekend to storm a lawn is not an unreasonable ask.

Honestly the number of women on MN who enable their feckless husbands to live a life of idleness because they just 'do it themselves' and make excuses about 'hot sun' etc is beyond me.

Leave him to do cleaning.

Put thick gardening gloves on and pull out the nettles by hand
With secateurs or even kitchen scissors.
It s not difficult

No problem op. I know how hard it is to maintain perspective under stress. Another idea I've never done but people have told me is to pour boiling water on the roots of weeds and they will die. One of my friends swears by this.
Maybe use this lockdown time to have a family discussion about full division of labour and pull together an agreed rota / chores list so nobody feels hard done by.
I can't physically manage the house on my own and have lost my cleaner due to lockdown so I'm a) having to relax my standards somewhat and b) challenge my kids too step up and contribute in a very different way.
I still have to work and of course now they're off school they're creating Moore mess and I'm cooking more etc and it's too much for me to keep on top of on my own. I even paid my daughter in accordance with cleaner's wages the other day because shhe did such a good job. It's very hit and miss and I'll reward accordingly.

‘Lawn’ is a rather generous description 🙄
And yes ppl do gardens outside of spring/summer, if you want it nice you need to get into the habit of doing it.
Get him to it cut very short and clear all the weeds out; from the roots. If he dithers tell him you’ve someone booked for Wednesday and he’s paying 😉

I’ve got a huge “lawn” and it’s on a tricky slope.
I strimmed the lot yesterday and sawed up half a tree that had fallen down, with a handsaw. I’m 66.
Your DP can do better.

You sound like a right pair

@JKScot4 Lawn’ is a rather generous description 🙄

OK Marie antoinette

*based on a quote Marie antoinette may or may not have made. Much in the same way that Tintagel trades on the 'fact' that king Arthur 'may or may not' have been conceived there.

Mine has never looked like that after a winter - that's a good year or more of neglect that's achieved that

The young top leaves of spring nettles are one of the most nutritious things you can eat or at least make a tonic tea with, don't destroy them all.

Don't eat or cook with the larger older leaves, but the young shoots are fine.

Ah. One of those strimmers that you operate with your penis, I see?