Please help me not reply! Please!

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Ok, so I started talking to a guy on a dating website about a week ago. We hit it off really well, absolutely loads in common etc. We exchanged, numbers and were texting constantly. Made plans to go on a date when all this is over and that was brought up several times in conversation. Probably due to isolation boredom we started sexting last night I’ll be honest and say it was pretty much initiated by me, in no way was I railroaded into this.
Surprise surprise he’s gone cold today . It’s really difficult to explain because it’s not like he hasn’t been in contact. He sent me a good morning text before he started work this morning and has text throughout the day but they just don’t seem as interested as before. Less x’s on the end than normal, way longer between reply’s than before and I’m just getting a general ‘I can’t be bothered feeling from them’.
I’ll be honest it kind off stings that somebody who seemed so genuinely interested turned out to be after one thing but I’ll get over it. It’s only been a week, on to the next and the rest but I don’t want to reply to his last message. I can foresee me being ghosted and I really don’t want that. If it’s going to happen I’d rather be the one doing the ghosting. So please! Stop me from replying to him!

Block him and Delete his number

Pictures or just talking? I'd be surprised if a bit of naughty messaging was enough to satisfy whatever he wants from you.
Maybe he's just had a busy day

Probably married and got cold feet or the wife got hold of his phone

A week! Really not worth the headspace.

Or maybe he's just busy with work? I think you're reading way too much into it at this stage. Give it a couple of days and see how it goes, if his texts get less and less, then block and delete, but give the guy a chance.

There were a few pictures. Definitely not married! We are both young (20’s) and it’s not a dig but he seemed very young for his age again. He didn’t seem a player type though. More alternative. He wasn’t the most attractive guy in the world and admitted himself that he had very little luck on the site.
I just feel a bit meh about it all 🙁

I don't know whether to say you're over reacting or go with your instincts.
If you hadn't have had the sexting last night and he was being how he is today would you think he was about to ghost you or that he's busy, got things on his mind etc.

I would still give him a chance, text him back and see how he is over the next few days. It's not a competition of who ghost's who first, if you're interested keep talking. If he does ghost you then at least you kind of saw it coming.

Block him and then delete his number. You don't know it off by heart yet so that'll be it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Avoiding I feel the same. I really don’t know. I don’t know if I reply it would pick up again because he’s not in work now or whether I’ll just feel like an idiot.
I’d think he was being weird but probably busy. I sent him a snapchat and he sent one back straight away. Definitely in work. I sound juvenile but it’s the lack of x’s. He was all for them yesterday and now it’s random how many he sends.
I’m annoyed at myself because when he got in contact I didn’t feel particularly attracted to him but we have so many common interests and conversation just flowed.

A week?

Ignore.

Thank you! Hoggle. I needed that!

Eh? How was he 'after one thing' when YOU initiated it?? As anyone else actually read this thread? Maybe he thought that's all you are arsed about, a virtual shag and he actually wanted something a bit more stimulating and celebral?

I laughed at the ' he had been unlucky on the site'
Because Ive heard that many times, along with I don't send dick pics and I've been single a really long time and I'm just trying to find some more than a quick shag.

Also if you are willing to sext him after a week why don't you think anyone else would?... he's not great looking but you gave it a go.

It sounds like your not ready for the world of dating just yet, your rushing a connection.

Your probably not right about not being ready, I think I’m going to give it a while before trying again.

Right even!

He knows his tone has changed, I couldn't be bothered with the games this early on.

Ok I replied with a really to the point few word answer which didn’t need a reply. He’s replied properly. I’m not fucking ready for this. I’m not long out of a seven year relationship. I’m an idiot.

It's been a week and you're analysing how many Xs he sends on messages received throughout the day while he's also working?

You are NOT ready to date.

I know showofhands I’ve just deleted my profile. I thought I was but the reality has proved very different.

Put it down to experience, don't beat yourself up about it. Xx

Maybe learn from this that sexting after a week is not the way to go.

I think it might be better for you to meet someone in real life as people on these sites tend to be a bit desperate or just want to boost their ego. Your still young go out and meet people. Perhaps you could join an evening class

You’ve never met this guy and you’ve only been messaging for a week. Your reaction is disproportionate OP. Analysing ‘xxx’ at the end of a text is also weird. Also you shouldn’t entertain a man that uses ‘xxx’ anyway. Please don’t block him it makes you look crazy. Just ghost and move on.

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You have to get used to this online dating because it's very different to real life dating. Just remember you're getting to know them and it's not a relationship and you also only know what they want to tell you or show you. It isn't real until you really get to know them and their friends etc in real life. If you enjoyed the sexting then that's fine. You don't have to decide anything. Keep chatting to him and see how you feel but protect your feelings because all it has been has been words exchange over a week. Don't make it more than it is.

It took me a while to get used to online dating and how quickly it unfolds.