So I joined Tinder.. is this normal?

[cocacolaforlola]

Finally took the plunge on Tuesday.
Matched with five men straight way and got chatting to one man in particular.. seemed very easygoing and relaxed for about an hour, until he suddenly got into sexual talk out with f the blue.
I've no problem with others doing that and I am no prude but it's not for me so I shut it down and left conversation.
Is this the norm ?
I had been married for twenty years and am single a year so I'm out of the loop completely ! Thanks for reading.

Men in lockdown are going to be looking for cheap thrills so the sexual side of it will ramp up. Almost a virtual ONS.

Triedandtested,
It is indeed personal preference.
Your approach was basically sitting on your throne and letting the men come to you and then deciding which would be thrown a bond.

Good thing is different approaches mean that those that will never be compatible never meet.

Oh and I wouldn’t expect someone to reply on say of pof if they weren’t interested. But if you have matched on Tinder, then yes.

It's not normal it's just common. I met my dp on tinder. No creepy sex talk ever.

@otterhound happy on my throne thanks. I think you've got a chip on your shoulder about women not replying. On tinder lots of women swipe on the first pic (as do men), you might look in more detail once you've matched and decide actually the person is not attractive or some detail in the written text makes him unsuitable. Matching means only that at first glance they thought you looked ok. It's like getting through the first round. Women get hundreds of messages a day. You prioritise the ones that made an effort in the first message or who had a good written profile and photos. Anyone else gets pushed to the bottom of the pile. OLD is a ruthless numbers game.

Fair enough. But this started by you saying you didnt like lazy men on bumble and me saying your approach was just as lazy.
I only swiped if i liked the way they looked and liked their profile. I also found, especially on tinder, the better looking the woman the less likely she was to have a profile and i didnt then want to find out that they smoked, were too short etc etc. We all have different approaches.

My experience of tinder is that it is a hook up app, not for dating really

Yep standard
And you feel like oh god it was going so well you had promise oh well. It gets awkward. Sometimes you try to steer the talk back on to a cleaner track. However usually it's a lost cause.

Bumble was awful
POF I found was v aggressive and overwhelming

@LargeGinOnTap

How unusual! I found POF the best (4 years later happily married with DS)

I learnt on tinder (and I’m not married to a wonderful man as a consequence) that you have to filter through those men and be quite firm with your boundaries. Some are exactly like that.

I didn't like how guys could still message you despite not swiping right for them. And it was like information overload