Dh said that I was cancer

[Teaandbed]

New low for us. We don’t call each other names - well until today. Ten years in.

I caught him out in a lie. But what really shook me was he was adamant he was right, had a smug face and raised his voice, was speaking to me like an idiot - probably to try and convince me he was right.

Only I proved him wrong. And rather than apologising and holding his hands up he tried to come up with stupid and confusing explanations. He must really think I’m an idiot.

So we had a text argument and he came out with that little beauty. He wants to split up too. Which I’ve agreed.

I’ve been a SAHM for 8 years whilst supporting him and even working at his business. I’ve got nothing.

This could possibly be the worst time to split up but how can we not now?

Yes he is nasty and his poison is coming out now.

Feel like my head is going to come off. Trapped in this fucking house. I’ve already been in for three weeks with the kids. It couldn’t be a worse time. I can’t even go to my friends house. I can’t even swim my dress off.

It’s pretty clear that things will be ok if I let him ‘manage’ how this will turn out.

He’s just come in with and did a massive huff because I’m still up. He can fuck off. I’ve never seen this behaviour from him. Who the fuck have I been living with?

another benefit single mum statistic

Some of us left abusive relationships and were not on benefits right through, worked hard to raise our DCs.

You can make plans to leave your relationship if that's your choice in this situation, without taking a swipe at single parents