Husband says out of the blue that I don’t appreciate him enough. He earns a mega salary and he thinks I should appreciate this more because this is what makes us comfortably off in these difficult times. Of course I appreciate this. But I certainly don’t routinely comment how much I appreciate it. Is that wrong of me? I am not very focussed on money and to be honest we have never had to worry. I think we should act as a team. I contribute a lot to our family life and it’s not all about money. Should I really bow down and worship at his superior earning power or is he being weird?
Backstory married 27 years. 3 DC. I work too - earn approximately 1/7 what he does. Recently we have been arguing because he has accepted a job a long way from home and will stay away at least two nights per week, probably more. He wants to buy a flat near this other job. He wants this job because he can make a lot of money (even more than currently earns) and help us pay school fees, university fees and be financially secure. He says current job makes him unhappy. I argued against him taking this job because I don’t think we need the extra money. I would rather we live together and have a good relationship and family life. I also believe every job makes him unhappy not just the current one.
We have done living apart for work before, out of necessity and I don’t want to do it again. It led to his affair and nearly broke us.
I also don’t want to be left looking after our kids and dogs all week. He insisted on getting a new puppy last year, without my agreement, and now I will be doing every early morning and late night walk while he lives away.