Partner overreacting about self isolation ? Or is it me?

[Kazz11]

Hi guys! As I'm fighting with myslef for few days now i thought that maybe someone elses opinion can help. So situation, UK have this social distance rules and lock down right now going on, I totally get it im staying home most of the time just shopping for essencieals as less times as I can, going just work and back home, even stop going out for walks (alone) as my partner was saying I'm being stupid and should follow rules. We live close to each other is 14min drive, not another city he has a car so can travel between places, we work same place just different shifts days and nights, and he keep saying we cant see each other. We already haven't seen for 5 weeks! I'm really going crazy cos situation may last 6months even and he keep saying as long as goverment keep lock down we cant meet even if it 6months or longer. He live on his own and dont have contact with anyone who may be in risks same as me. I live with my friend but she normally hanging out with her best friend like walk in park (max 2 people at the same time still following rules) and also her partner. Honestly I'm really jealous about that , I cant imagine not seeing someone for 7 months or longer, what do you guys think. We work same place, we both key workers and have contact with hundreds other people if one person in our workplace would have virus we both would be sick, so what's the difference if we gonna see each other. He saying I'm being really irresponsible and stupid that I wanna meet with him. Am I being foolish or him cos really I'm sick of thinking about it. He keep saying how he miss me but is he? I think in our situation when we not putting anyone in danger we can hang out freely. I talked with my friends, they keep telling me he is overreacting but i dont know if they just keeping my side. HELP!

He's right.
You stay at your own main address.
Essential trips only like for work or shopping.
One exercise a day

Sorry, he's right, the rules are very clear, you are not an exception.

Not what you want to hear I know but lockdown is tough for everybody. I haven't seen anyone in weeks, work from home and just grab essential food shopping less than once a week. It's getting me down but has to be done.

I'd bin him.

Yabu sorry x

It’s the shittest situation, but he’s right. I’m sure he does miss you, but you have to follow the advice! Don’t meet up with him.

He is technically right about the rules but if you're already exposed to hundreds of people at work seeing each other isn't really increasing the risk. In his position I'd probably arrange for "chance meetings" at your shared place of work as you both have to go there anyway.

Sorry, it's shit and you aren't at all unreasonable to feel sad and shit about it but he is right 😔

I think he is using it as a way to take a break from the relationship.
Is there a reason you two haven’t considered temporarily moving in together - as the government suggested couples can try to do?

I agree with Kylie. He’s technically right. But you work at the same place and have been and continue to be exposed to hundreds of people.

He said that he dont want to live with other people than just me, I have pet and he cant have it in his place

That's just how it is, Kazz. You can't see each other, full stop.

It's hard for those people who have to be with their partner 24/7 because of lock down, at least you can please yourself when you eat or sleep and watch what you want on TV. Many would envy you.

By the way, your flatmate going and meeting up with friends is far more irresponsible than your bloke not.

he is correct.
we must all follow the rules strictly.
other people's lives may depend upon it.
also your flatmate should not be meeting anyone when going out to take exercise. she and you can go for a walk together, because you live in the same house. but it is against the rules to arrange to meet anyone.
you need to take a more responsible attitude. your boyfriend may decide that your lack of moral principle on this is incompatible with his moral values.

He is right. You can’t meet up and get within 2m of him since you are in different households. Your flat mate is not following the rules and risking lives. It doesn’t matter that you work in a risky situation, that does not justify taking additional, unnecessary risks.

Suggest you skype your partner often. My partner and I once went six months without seeing each other. We were in different hemispheres and continents. But we Skyped and emailed and messaged often. Use technology.

I don't see why 2 people cant go for an walk remaining 2m+ apart. Theres the rules and then there's being overly officious.

I think he is using it as a way to take a break from the relationship.

THIS.

He's not into you as much as you are into him.

I'd take a step back and stop badgering him about meeting up.

Sorry - he’s right. I haven’t seen any of my extended family ( siblings/ parents) since February. It’s sh!t but it’s how it is.

Make the most of “absence makes the heart grow fonder”

Write love letters, date over face time, have movie night over Skype.

I thought groups of two people from different households are allowed?

He right but he's not being kind.

Why haven't you see each other for 5 weeks? These rules have been in place for less than 2.

I think folks are being a bit harsh saying he’s not into you etc. He is following the rules, but...

But I also don’t understand why you’ve not seen each other for five weeks, the lock down has only been in place a week and a half?

He's right. Protect both of yourselves as much as possible. You are both key workers and have a responsibility, as we all do, to follow these rules for the good of everyone.

Or do you think you're immune to this virus? Or immune to picking it up and passing it on?

Ffs why can't people follow these rules that are set to help save lives?

Sorry OP but he is right.
Although.... you are allowed to go out for a walk on your own.
Just adhere to the social distancing rule and you will be fine.

He is right. You shouldn't mix households. Plenty of people are in the same situation. I haven't seen my mum or sister in two weeks and they live 10 mins down the road.

While you come into contact with loads of people daily, and so does he, by you two meeting you effectively blend that into one population and make the transmitability potential of all those people double what it was.

Think about it. It's not about either of you getting sick, it's about you carrying it without realising and passing it to many other people. Imagine instead that you were two groups that were all having sex with each other. Someone in his group picks up an STI. With him isolated from you, that STI never makes it to your group. If you 'overlap' then it goes through your group too.

Don't think about your health, think about you getting it from his group, carrying it without realising and passing it to colleagues and one of those colleagues giving it to their 80 year old parent.

This is why your housemate is being irresponsible also.

Another one that thinks the rules re social distancing doesn't apply to them