Am I being unreasonable??

[kcnmptn88]

Hi all

So, my OH is usually pretty zen but is under a lot of pressure at work atm so has been v stressed out. I'm not working due to the coronavirus outbreak so I am at home a lot.

I struggle with anxiety and depression for which I am being treated but the change of routine has really thrown my depression for a massive loop and I am struggling to find motivation to do anything, but I try my best.

So, this evening my partner and i were messing about and it obviously got too much for my OH who told me I was being deliberately annoying and did I really think it was necessary during this epidemic.
I didn't think I was being annoying so said so.. my OH then started shouting at me to get out of the bedroom and go and sleep downstairs. When I said no, my OH forcefully grabbed me by the arms and tried to pull me off the bed. When I fought back, my OH said "if you dont leave now, I will drag you out. Trust me".

So now i am downstairs and wondering why it all happened.
It isn't the first time, I've had clenched fists, things thrown at me and have been threatened with a punch because I've been "annoying".

I know I'm hard work sometimes but surely I dont deserve this :-( my head isn't in the relationship any more but my heart is.

OP don't tell him that you're leaving, this is when abuse can escalate. Wait until he's gone to work. Don't forget important documents.

Oh and be prepared for the begging and promises once you have gone. Good luck.

@kcnmptn88

Dear OP - great news that you’re getting out - hopefully you’re well on the way to your mum’s now.

Good! It's all I can say. In no way will you ever regret it. It sounds like you might not have too many practical ties to break? You moved into his, no kids and no job there at the moment. Sounds like a perfect time to cut your losses and start a new life without the abusive wanker in it.

Hope you're safe at your mums.