Terrible ONS

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About 3 weeks ago I had a ONS with someone from work who've I've been flirting with for a while. It was completely unexpected and I was horribly drunk.

A couple of really embarrassing things happened and now I keep getting the most dreadful flashbacks. It's giving me anxiety. How can I put it out of my mind? I literally cannot stop thinking about it.

FWIW it's the first time I've had sex in three years since getting divorced. And to make it even worse I do quite like him. And I'm going to have to face him when this lockdown is over.

I feel like shit

Okay I can deal with the underwear as the period just about

But the bit of fishing wire sticking out of my foof?

Yes my check up was cancelled but need to get it looked at.

And tbf fair I did text my best mate the next morning saying 'my new minge felt marvellous' but that was before the horrors kicked in

It's not embarrassing and that's how many women have sex in long term relationships. At the beginning you do all the shaving etc but after a whole you realise that he doesn't care and you don't care and you both just want to have sex.

But understand when it's with someone new you want beautiful underwear etc.

If he felt a sharp wire he'd have screamed. The rest of it is nothing, he won't care about that in the slightest

I understand that you don't, but I think that's all very funny and I think you'll laugh it off at some point too.

If he didn't complain about any pain, then either he didn't feel it or wanted sex really badly anyway.

However, if it was a ONS thing and you haven't kept in touch, I'd try to put him out of my mind. I'd expect some regular contact if there was something more than sex.

I doubt he even remembers your underwear - he likely just wanted it off!!!!

This, I don't think many men pay the same attention to underwear that we do.

If he's had a relationship before he has most likely encountered a starting period, ending period or (if they are both up for it) even a full, mid period. I've heard a guy say he used to go down on exes while they gave their period. Not my cup of tea but just show you some men are securely pragmatic and non squeamish/precious about it.

Hairy legs - I think we can be honest and say that in long term relationships and in caught in the hop sex, many of us have had less than hairless legs

He probably did t feel the stitch, if he was out off by it he'd have stopped the sex surely.

*some men are definitely

*put off

Almost 100% certain he won’t have noticed your underwear or hairy legs in the heat of the moment. The period, bet he didn’t care, I’ve had sex during my period and I think quite a lot of people in long term relationships have, so chances are at some point he will have had sex with a woman on her period.

The stitch, he definitely won’t have noticed or he would have said. Like what others have said, the break before you see gun again will do you good. Make sure you look shit hot next time you see him.

*see

Oh OP! Sympathy for the beer fear. I'm sure many of us have been there. If it helps make you feel better, I'll share my embarrassing story - guy I really liked, I started a period while in the middle of things, and also on a separate occasion, sharted on him (same guy, and it was casual!) yeah it was embarrassing but these things happen and if a guy is going to poke around down there, he may encounter these things! just be pragmatic about it/laugh it off.
Maybe write down your worries to get them out of your head and it might help you put it behind you

Onwards and upwards OP.

@Loveablers Oh ffs there’s always one! That didn’t even enter my mind because believe it or not women SO get hammered and can consent to drunk sex just like men. NO WHERE did the OP imply it wasn’t consensual, in fact she stated she really liked him, so why the hell would you even ask that question?!

Amen to that! I was wondering how many posts it would take. Was quite impressed that it was literally the first reply!

If he noticed the stitch he would have said.
You’ll be fine op!
(Always wear nice underwear)

So your first reaction was "marvellous"? Chances are, he was having fun, too.

OP I once did a poo on a man’s penis during anal sex. It doesn’t get worse than that.

@nobodysolvesaproblemlikemaria
Might not have solved the problem as such but that did make me laugh and I think you win 😁

I can't remember if he mentioned the stitch or not. Now I'm thinking that he did I have a vague memory

Still the one silver lining is that I've realised I might be ready to date again and I need to sort myself go. I've had a rough couple of years, put on loads of weight, stopped taking care of myself and lost all my self esteem.

And @Nobodysolvesaproblemlikemaria sorry I shouldn't laugh but I did

Hes probably cringing at what he did wrong.Hes worried he was crap for you.When you see him just laugh it off.Chances are thats just what he wants to do as well.

OP, similar thing happened to a friend of mine years ago. She really fancied a fella from our running group for ages. We were all out as a group one night, she got horribly drunk and threw herself at him. Took him home and had drunken sex.

The next morning they loaded up into his brand new very expensive car he'd had for only a few days. She started her period all over his brand new car seat on the drive to get her car. She was absolutely mortified convinced he would never talk to her again after bleeding on the new upholstery.

They've been very happily married for 19 years now! A good guy realises that women have periods. And to always buy leather interior!!! Lol

Either he didn't feel the stitch, or being poked by it was not enough to put him off his stride. Either is a win for you. Ride out the hairy legs and undies as any good feminist would. Don't text him just turn up and be fabulous while acting like it was nothing to you

Op, I had a ONS with a guy who was a jock at the school we had been to and was still very popular and had loads of friends.
I owed the bed :( we didn't even discuss it. We woke up, I felt the bed was wet, he got aphone call and left. God knows who he told but I still feel embarrassed so many years later

I had just had a bad relationship break down, moved town and job and yes I was drunk but I have never ever done that before. I think I was just stressed.

I feel your pain.

I peed the bed* that should say.

Oh god just reading that made me a bit sweaty! I agree with shoving it deep down and ignoring it and immediately switching thoughts if it comes to the surface. Not sure how emotionally healthy this is though

I also love the glow up idea! I am going to do the same. Just as soon as I have eaten this sausage roll.