Husband just told our 6yo DD that I am going to die because I am fat

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He is the same weight as me, I am v overweight after putting weight on after birth due to health issues, steroids a d eating the wrong foods. He says that he said it to wake me up to start to lose weight. He has started to comment when I eat things he thinks I shouldn't. I am livid he has frightened our DD like this and feel this is abusive behaviour. He doesn't see it like that. Am IBU?

There is no excuse for him saying this to a child. He is a complete wanker. Also, yes weight and bmi does have a impact on Coronavirus. However statistically speaking, an overweight woman still has a better chance of recovery than an overweight man as this virus seems to be affecting men more. So not only is he a cruel wanker but a thick c*nt

Hes projecting his own fear about his own health issues. he won't ever see that though.

Your first priority here is your daughter. Do whatever you can to reassure her - tell her he was joking or that you went to the doctor and they said you were just fine. Because in this situation, lying is OK. She needs to know that BOTH her parents will be OK.

Deal with him next. And nearly every poster above has told you how best to do that.

Your poor dd.

Does he know that Corona virus kills nearly twice as many men as women on average because their immune systems just can't fight it the way ours can. Along with his other conditions he is much more vulnerable than you.

He is not just curel to your daughter he is just totally wrong.

WTF! OP, I take it you've told him, the main victim of this abusive shit is your DD - whe loves you BOTH and to say that to her is to hurt her directly in the way he initially wanted to hurt you.
Tell him this, he has verbally abused his own child!
Sick bastard! I'm fuming for you!

I suspect he is scared his weight will kill him. Ten stone is a huge amount to gain, I suspect he’s deflecting it onto you, because he’s secretly worried about himself, and wants you to be worried too. He may also be worried about you.

But no matter how concerned he is, you can’t be telling a young child their mother will die, that’s beyond shocking, I can’t even imagine what sort of person would do this. It’s sickening.

Abusive bastard
Abusive to you both

He is of course stupid & ignorant too
The great majority of people, all ages and all sizes, will survive CV, even if they catch it
BUT
men are about twice as likely to die as women of comparable age & health

So sorry for what you are going through 💐
I hope you can prepare & copy some of the documents you would need to LTB as soon as it is safe re COVID

If you wish, you and your DC can leave an abusive relationship during lockdown - it is one of the exceptions to staying home