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Is anyone else single and feeling a bit sad at the thought of months of lockdown?

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TurnOnTheFairyLights · 28/03/2020 22:35

I know- first world problems, I can pay my bills and better no relationship than a bad one.

But.... the thought of being on my own for months has got to me a little tonight.

I've not had a great couple of years and I had hoped to really start OLD this year. I turn 30 in January and I'd promised myself that things would be on the up by then.

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TurnOnTheFairyLights · 29/03/2020 20:23

'Going to the shops' is completely different now though- no nice coffees with a book or browsing lovely clothes.

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TurnOnTheFairyLights · 29/03/2020 20:24

Thank you for all the kind words Flowers

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solosod · 29/03/2020 20:26

I just miss having that someone special that wanted to talk to me. Shop assistants had to! Smile

Terralee · 29/03/2020 20:29

Haha @MadamePewter definitely not that kind of hot!

NoNeedToBeRudeDear · 29/03/2020 22:34

I hear you op.

My H left at Xmas and now there’s just me and our toddler twins. My parents are both 70 and I’m so worried about them.

H couldn’t give a shit. He’s barely been in touch, never asked if I need anything for the DC. I’m so angry. Think I’ll be starting divorce proceedings when this is all over...

EBearhug · 30/03/2020 10:14

I've not lived with anyone since I leave shared housing, and I haven't had a boyfriend for years.

About a decade ago, I wrote off my car, and had to work from home for 3 weeks until I replaced it. Weekends at home were fine - I could walk in to town, to the library, to the supermarket and so on. But I struggled in the week - I had to work, not go out and see people. It wasn't good for my mental state.

It seems different this time. I think this is partly because I have been very busy with a deadline, which is a time I would have probably cut down on contact anyway. But also, I'm not missing out on my usual exercise classes, because they have been cancelled. My evening class is continuing by Skype. I've been on a couple of virtual "pub" sessions. At work, my manager is running teabreak meetings and it is increasing our sense of being a team - we're spread over different locations/countries anyway, but he's aware it could be harder for some people than others and is checking how people are doing, whereas my old manager didn't care.

But it's still not the same as seeing people face to face, whether in the office or the street. I can often go weeks or months without anyone physically touching me, so in some ways there's really no change - that must be harder for those who are only recently single. You do get inured to it over time, but I don't think it's good long-term. I still have the usual worries about what will happen if I get I'll, or fall down the stairs, will anyone notice, who could help? They're probably a bit higher up my mind than usual just now, but it's always in the background anyway.

I am very good at filling my time with things to do (and as I am still working full time, I envy all the posts about how people can learn new things and so on.) But it's still not the same as sometimes seeing people face-to-face. I am finding it easier this time, though. So far. I full understand why others might not be.

zippy90210 · 31/03/2020 16:26

How's everyone doing on day 9 of lockdown?

Wingingitlikeapro · 13/05/2020 19:03

I totally sympathise , I have split with my boyfriend today and even although I was the one that ended it , I am still dreading the thought of being alone for the duration of this , I have my 2 kids but I mean adult interaction. I am open to PMs or a singles WhatsApp group lol xxx

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