This is long so please read if you have time. I didn't know where to put this either so hopefully relationships is ok. NC as well. Anyway,
I had a friend who had her dc a few days after me.
Just before the dc were born she kept ringing me saying she hopes she has her dc first. I asked her why and she just said oh it would be nice for me to have the oldest and you have the youngest. It made no sense but there were texts and calls saying this over and over so much that when I had mine first I kept it quiet.
After the dc were born she carried on constant comparisons. Mines bigger, taller, mines smarter, mines doing this that and the other first. I thought maybe she's insecure so I just ignored it and tbh laughed a bit about it at the time. As they grew up it got more annoying. I'd sign my dc up for a class and she'd sign hers up initially to the same class but then after a while it was for a bigger better place and tell me for example her dc is going to the best football class in U.K. for example after I'd signed mine up to the local club.
She'd come to my house and make the dc stand back to back and compare their heights saying her dc is taller etc. Her dc foot size is bigger?!
Eventually now years later I told her to stop comparing them they are two individual dc and not even related. It was spoiling the friendship. As time passed it got silly. If I mentioned anything about my dc doing anything she would be there.
But as time went on things also got more sinister.
I started to say I didn't want the dc doing all the same things together and time to branch out in different friendship groups as they started different schools (had I felt space to breath I wouldn't have done this)
She started trying to find out who my friends were and magically making friends with the same people I'd go to things with and turning up at events I would go to anyway and she knew I'd be at.
Finally I said to my friend enough is enough. I'm sorry but I think this friendship has died now and I tried really hard to keep it nice as I thought maybe there's something wrong mentally that she felt she had to keep competing with my dc and her dc. After a few more incidents of her accidentally being at the same events as me I came off of all social media.
Things got worse. She'd knock on my door begging me to explain why we weren't friends anymore. I just told her I am living a different life now and want some space away. She then got a job at my dc school! This was enough for me.
I didn't say anything as was thinking of moving anyway. We moved away.
After all of this, she's still stalking us. My dc recently won something big that meant their name was online. I never post anything online but in order to take part this had to happen as part of the organisations rules and they posted something about my dc on SM.
The organiser of the event is very difficult to find as they don't advertise and it's a fairly niche thing, they mentioned in passing that they had a new person interested in the event, my old friend and her dc. I said to the teacher please tell me you didn't say where I live or what school my dc goes to. Teacher wasn't very clear on what they did say and now I'm back to thinking I'll never get away. I'm quite sure she's planning to accidentally turn up at the same events through these events now.
Is there anything I can do to get away from all of this? It's making me feel quite worried for my dc as well.
What triggered me to think of this just now was a 'memory' came home on my phone and it was of the two dc. As I looked closer at the picture I realised my friend was in front of me taking a picture as well, I could see my friend wasn't taking a picture of the two dc only mine. We were in my living room and it would have been weird to take a picture of only my dc as the two were sitting next to each other posing for a photo so she had to literally cut her own dc out of the picture to take one of mine. It's making me feel very uncomfortable that this old 'friend' may be more weirdo than I wanted to believe.
Should I be concerned? Is there anything I can do? I don't know if I'm being paranoid but I've never felt weirded out so much about anyone else before.