To wonder how people in abusive relationships are coping during lockdown?

[Marshmello]

Getting out of the house is a big thing when you're in an abusive relationship. One of the key freedoms often controlled is just that. Sometimes it literally involves him guarding the door, not letting you pass. Or slamming you against the wall by the throat if you try to. 😔

So being allowed out on legitimate business such as to school or work is part of the oxygen that lets you survive.

I've been thinking with some deep concern how people are doing if they're shut in. Because now he'll be able to say it's not just me but the police who'll keep you in here.

Everybody ok?

(by the way, I'm out of it now and in lockdown elsewhere, a bit lonely and life in tatters, but ok)

I honestly can't even begin to imagine how people are coping in these situations.
It must be hell on earth.
I think the majority have learned how to 'behave' and I just hope they can keep themselves safe until all this is over.

Well done OP for getting out.
Your life may seem like it's in tatters, but the reality is, that it is just beginning. Your abuse free (although lonely right now) life is about to start.
Keep strong OP - you are doing so well!

Thanks, hellsbells 😔 It's just weird how many times I have had to change the 'normal' over the past 18 months. I sold my house to escape, but being on the open seas is a bit rocky. And now everything is even weirder with the dreaded virus. And I keep thinking maybe I git out just to die on the sitting room floor like the stories, and my poor child to find me 😞

He said I will definitely get it and die. He said I'm crazy if I think I won't. I know he can't say but still. I don't know if I'll even make my birthday next week. And now Boris. And then someone said maybe it's not true, maybe they're just saying Prince Charles and Boris have it so we take it seriously.

Too many lies and too much strangeness. Not enough safety. Where is safe and who is safe? 😥

But if I was in a house still with him for sure it would have been a new way to torment me, and he would have been coughing on me and laughing.

Which is what made me think of the others.

Hi there, @Marshmello - we're just bobbing on here to bump your thread and hopefully others will be along very soon to add their own thoughts.

It's an issue that, sadly, is affecting so many people in the current climate - a real worry. It feels like a good time to link to our domestic violence web guide here where folk will find useful links for seeking RL help.

Stay safe.