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Facebook faux pas. I want to fkn die

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 02:13

Was seeing a guy briefly recently. Was having a nose at his Facebook profile. He’s good friends with his ex. Her profile was showing in the ‘friends with’ sectional the top of his page and I hit the +

Initially didn’t realise but then did. Cancelled request but she’s definitely gonna get a notification right? Awkwarrrrrrrrrd

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BecauseReasons · 27/03/2020 02:15

Oh, very awkward. Bless you. Maybe she won't get a notification since you've cancelled it?

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 02:17

Pretty sure she will. Got a friend on the case to delete then re-add me on FB. No notification on FB but a notification my phone. I am cringing sooo fkn hard 😭😆

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AlexaCrowe · 27/03/2020 02:19

You can temporarily ‘close’ your Facebook account, do it for a couple of days and reactivate and then when she clicks on her requests it won’t show who it was. It used to work anyway!

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 02:21

Thanks @AlexaCrowe I’ve deleted the request itself and so that will disappear from FB but her phone will probs have a notification on it 😑 oh mannn

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Justneedaprivaterant · 27/03/2020 03:17

Sorry to tell you but this happened to me yesterday evening. Had a friend request and when I clicked it it said request removed but I was still able to see who it was and their profile

PenelopeFlintstone · 27/03/2020 03:23

A lot of people have fb notification phone banners turned off because there are too many. I do.

Aquamarine1029 · 27/03/2020 03:25

Meh. Who even cares? She might think you're a weirdo for all of 5 seconds and then she'll forget it. I wouldn't even worry about it.

e1y1 · 27/03/2020 03:33

Just block her. We've all been there - many, MANY times.

Glad I don't have fb anymore.

AnyFucker · 27/03/2020 03:50

If this is all you have to worry about right now......

expat101 · 27/03/2020 04:53

I did this to someone on our (small) community forum page who became a 3rd party that tried to ''out me'' on social media as making untrue statements.. which I hadn't, she was just taking the other person's word for it as did several others.

Yeah I was bloody embarrassed too, but do you know what, several months later and the original person showed their true colours to all. The ''3rd party'' now likes most of my public posts!

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 06:40

@anyfucker 😘

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 06:43

I know we all have loads of other stuff to worry about rn. What would blocking her do tho? She’ll still see the notification right?

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TroysMammy · 27/03/2020 06:47

Unsure if blocking would work but I've blocked arseholes on local FB sites and I can't see their vile comments. Obviously I don't know if they can still see their comments but can't see my original one.

mollymoggs · 27/03/2020 06:49

I don't get notifications as they're too annoying. That's your only hope I'd imagine.

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 06:52

Just gonna stay here and be a bit a little bit grateful for some lockdown rn 😩

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cheeserem · 27/03/2020 08:21

Oh god that's a nightmare. I'm sure blocking her would work though. As long as she didn't see the notification already lol. If it was my ex's girlfriend that did that to me I would have a good laugh about it with my mates to be fair 😩sorry.

MikeUniformMike · 27/03/2020 08:36

I once accidentally friend requested my contacts list, which included people I most certainly didn't want to be friends with.
Dickhead of an ex-BF probably thought I was pining for him.

Sux2buthen · 27/03/2020 08:41

OP you must only worry about Coronavirus
You must find any post unrelated to it and sneer that the content on it is irrelevant because....Coronavirus
Wink

Motherofmayhem · 27/03/2020 08:48

Sometimes it’s easier to worry about the smaller things

MySonIsAlsoNamedBort · 27/03/2020 08:59

I have gotten a friend request at 2am from an ex-boyfriends current girlfriend that quickly disappeared and all I thought was "haaaa, having a cheeky stalk."
So many people do it, she'll probably just have a bit of a giggle at it and that's it.

myusernamewastakenbyme · 27/03/2020 09:19

Oh god i was stalking my partners ex wife a couple of months ago and hit the 'add friend' button by mistake...i deleted it instantly and desperately hoped she hadnt seen it....about 2 mins later she messaged me saying 'you sent me a friend request...do i know you?'....i just ignored the message...its still sat in my 'others' folder....it took days for me to calm down lol.

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 09:56

I messaged the guy to give him a heads-up. He kinda laughed about it. I’m so pissed off. I wasn’t even stalking her profile (this time) I was stalking his. Just gonna have to take this one on the chin. I’m a LOSERRRR

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 09:57

@myusernamewastakenbyme that’s so awkward hahaaa. She knew damn well who you were. Bet she loved it. Just gotta laugh. FB is for stalking after all x

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Minionmomma · 27/03/2020 09:58

@Sux2buthen high five 😆😘 xx

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Sapphiresunrise · 27/03/2020 10:06

Honestly don't worry about it :) i've done it too, it'll all be forgotten quickly enough

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