Facebook faux pas. I want to fkn die

[Minionmomma]

Was seeing a guy briefly recently. Was having a nose at his Facebook profile. He’s good friends with his ex. Her profile was showing in the ‘friends with’ sectional the top of his page and I hit the +

Initially didn’t realise but then did. Cancelled request but she’s definitely gonna get a notification right? Awkwarrrrrrrrrd

Deactive your account ASAP Iv done this ! It won't show up on here then 😂

I think stalking also results in friends suggestions - I have had present partners of my ex come up as friends suggestions for me. As I haven't looked at their pages (I'm never on facebook now - partly because of difficult breakup) it seems to be enough that they have looked me up - there is no other link as my ex and I aren't friends on it anymore.

Messaging the guy to tell him seems like the actual weird thing to do.

Why on Earth did you tell the guy? Surely now they both think you're weird.

I’m cringing for you OP.
You could say she came up on your ‘people you may know’ prompt and clicked add instead of swiping past?

Or say you were drunk.

@offlikeabanger @MySonIsAlsoNamedBort nahhh they still live together so she’s gonna wake up see the notification and tell him right? I had to get in there first.

I know for a fact she’d previously checked out my FB profile because he told me and I openly responded that I’d checked her out too - no biggie. But adding her. That’s just fkn cringe 😬

Just tell her she appeared on your People you might know list and you meant to press remove
If you're both friends on Facebook with the same person then that is quite likely

Don’t worry, we’ve all done it stupid things on FB! While I was still married to dickhead ex one of his OW accidentally added me. It helped towards me figuring out that she was definitely the OW. She must have blocked me straight away but I still saw the notification.

@McTits wow that must’ve been awful for you at that time. But in the longer run it was helpful for you. Social media has some good uses hey x

@Minionmomma

We've all done cringe stuff like this, well i have anyway. I have actually wanted to cut my own hands off after typing the wrong thing to the wrong person... So embarrassing but fuck it, cringe today then move on

Apparently blocking is the key, for future reference: quickly undo whatever the action is then block them for however long you can bear not stalking them for, ideally days/weeks until your notification would have slipped off the list. If you block them ASAP it shouldn’t even show as a notification anymore (I hope )

Hé and she are probably not making such a big deal of it as you are,
as in, you are probably killing your self over it, whereas thy have moved on to the next niggle in their relationship.
Don’t worry about it, these things happen all of the time ; every where.
You didn’t mean any harm after all, it was a simple mistake.

Be honest. Why not? It's not as if many of us haven't done this, and I don't think there's anything to be ashamed of. Sometimes the truth works really well.

I’ve done this too but Instagram. Was mortified at the time but 5 years on it’s just a funny story that I tell down the pub. And you know she’s checked you out too so it’s all good, have a and don’t worry about it any further

The thing is, she will have got a notification pop up on her phone straight away. If you deleted the request, she then won't be able to find it. Nothing can stop the initial notification but she may not have notifications turned on.

Put up a post that can be seen publicly saying if anyone got a friend request from me it wasn't me please ignore!

I tend to get requests from men. That's awkward because my profile says married!!!

Mistakes happen and she prob will think it’s weird but not much more than that.

Own it! Yeah so what you were having a look. I’m sure she has looked at yours. What is she going to do about it really? Message you and say don’t look at my profile? It will be forgotten about next week. Can sympathise though. 😩😩😩

OP, if you deactivate your account for a while, she may not get it.

Don’t permanently delete just deactivate

Not me (honestly) but I saw a poster on here who was having a bit of a Facebook stalk of her ex. There was a picture of him with his new wife and newborn baby, and she somehow managed to tag herself AS THE BABY and couldn't remove it. That always makes me laugh when I fuck up x

What are we women like! I’ve done similar

Women know that women are curious about our men’s exes etc, and any woman that has FB and says that she hasn’t had a wee nosey at her new mans/man ex, is frankly telling porkies!

I’m the master of Facebook cringe.

Such as the time I was months deep in stalking the new neighbour (I found out her name as a parcel of hers came to us)
And ended up SHARING a photo of HER from 5 MONTHS AGO.
I could have died there and then just from my heart beating erratically as I desperately tried to remove the shared post from my time line.
And then knowing I’d have to pass her her post.

Then there was the time my friend started seeing someone new. so without telling her I went for a good ole stalk to see what he was like and ADDED HIM AS A FLIPPING FRIEND.

Or finally the time I was stalking my ex boyfriend who When I see in the street i pretend I don’t know him so don’t say hi and I manged to like his most recent Facebook photo.

BLOODY CRINGE

I am thankfully over all of them now.

If the guy knows what us women are like then he shouldn’t find it odd at all, I think guys probably FB stalk their girlfriends exes too, it’s human nature and what’s FB for if not to stalk folks?! lol