Couples who don’t live together but one of you has a kid-advice

[BillyGoatWoof]

A quick question for any couples who don’t live together but one of you has a child. During the lock down have you:
A) moved you and your child into your bf/gf house
B) they have come to stay with you
C) Neither and you’re just going to see eachother when this is all over.

I usually see my BF 3/4 nights a week and I’m just after a bit of perspective. Thanks

My partner has a child and we are following C). We are in France so our confinement conditions are stricter than the UK.

It's tough but don't take his decision too personally: as the non-parent, there is a big difference between spending a weekend all together or staying over after work and helping with a bit of homework, and living all under the same roof 24/7 with no visibility on an end date.

I was initially disappointed to not be "confined" with my partner, but as the confinement has been extended by a further week and potentially more, I am very happy to have my own space and not have to be an involuntary, circumstantial step-parent. Not that I don't like his child or that we don't get on, just that we were not at the stage for me to be there 24/7.

Also, my absence makes handover easier for him and his ex. Him being alone in his apartment reassures his ex that their child is not exposed to any more risk than necessary.

Thanks everyone. I promise I’m not an over reactor or someone who doesn’t think rationally, I think was just a bit shocked by his outright ‘no’. I’m not going to take it personally (or take it personally on behalf of dc), he has now been furloughed from work as of today so I don’t blame him not wanting to spend the next few weeks locked up with a bored kid with no escape.

Thanks again and keep safe