Shit first Mother's Day

[Comps83]

Sorry not looking for advice , just want to vent
Had my first baby in January , my mother died unexpectedly a week later
Last night DH got so drunk he fell asleep mid sentence while trying to protest that he wasn't drunk
So DS and I are sat downstairs while DH sleeps off his bastard hangover
Not to mention the obvious other elephant in the room that we're all having to deal with right now

Horrible situation, Comps.

Would you want to be with him even if he wasn’t drinking?

The PP is right: call a solicitor today. Are you an executor if your Mum’s will?

He must have seen his drunk-written card?

Take care.

Horrible for you Comps but it sounds like you have already taken one of the hardest steps, which is not accepting this as some warped version of “normal”. Splitting up/divorcing is hard, but not as hard as living with this.

OP, this sounds horrendous. Do you have a sibling, and aunt or an uncle or a close friend you could stay with? You'd be surprised how many people would be willing to help if you told them what was really going on?

Is there anywhere he can go to? Would he have the decency to book himself into a Travelodge for a fortnight??

His drinking is a problem; he cannot be a supportive partner or even a safe parent in that state. His refusal to discuss or to stop drinking shows total disregard for you and your child. Finally, the assertion that "nothing bad happened" is completely subjective and essentially worthless. What needs to happen? That he actually pee on the baby?

You can choose what is "bad enough" for you and for your child. If that is slurring and not being present during family time and discussions, that is bad enough to leave. If that is being drunk while he is supposed to care for your son, or leaving all care to you because he'd rather be drunk, that is also bad enough to leave.

I wish you strength, and there will be people with experience with alcoholics along to give more specific advice. Just know that his drinking is his choice and you do not have to accept, condone or facilitate it.