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How would a man handle this?

28 replies

DavinaBeaver · 20/03/2020 01:05

I’m fascinated by relationships and human behaviour which is why I’m asking this. I’m not having an affair.

If a married man met a married woman who he found attractive, physically beautiful, and they had a huge amount in common, do you think he would be able to or want to resist the woman if she made it clear that she wanted him?

I’m just wondering how much willpower our men have! Thanks.

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Lolailo · 20/03/2020 01:50
Biscuit
JuanSheetIsPlenty · 20/03/2020 01:52
Hmm

Men aren’t one homogenous mass you know. There are 3.5b of them- and they’re all as different as the 3.5b women are.

PhilCornwall1 · 20/03/2020 04:19

Errr, how hard is that question to answer!!

It's easy, some would resist and some wouldn't. It's as simple as that.

Sussexcoast · 20/03/2020 06:11

“Is she a redhead?”

City Slickers (1or 2?)

TooTrueToBeGood · 20/03/2020 06:15

Some would.
Some wouldn't.
Some would but deny they did.
Some wouldn't but pretend they did.
Some wouldn't and then would.
Some would and then wouldn't.

ShatnersWig · 20/03/2020 08:02

We always have a huge influx of first time posters asking weird shit during school holidays. Guess that's the new normal for a few months now.

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DavinaBeaver · 20/03/2020 09:45

I’m a regular! Pom bears, penis beaker etc! Just curious

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IndoorWeather · 20/03/2020 09:49

Do you have a husband, boyfriend, adult son, father, male friend, or male colleague? Why not ask them, rather than asking a female-dominated board?

Jonnywishbone · 20/03/2020 10:15

Is the man happily or unhappily married? Has his wife cheated on him? Does he have any children?

moonriverandme · 20/03/2020 10:35

Depends on the man, how much he values his existing relationship, how selfish he is, the chance of being discovered, how much integrity he has and so on.

NoMoreDickheads · 20/03/2020 10:38

do you think he would be able to or want to resist the woman if she made it clear that she wanted him

He could still resist- he's still in control of his hands or whatever.

Fromablokespoint · 20/03/2020 12:31

Would you resist if it was the other way round?

Of course us men have no control on how we act and would be unable to resist.

YRGAM · 20/03/2020 12:34

Same way a given married woman would react, which is totally unknown as everybody is different. No single gender has a monopoly on monogamy

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DavinaBeaver · 20/03/2020 12:38

Is the man happily or unhappily married?
Doesn’t love her but settled.

Has his wife cheated on him?
No

Does he have any children?
Yes

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DavinaBeaver · 20/03/2020 12:42

He’s selfish but has high integrity. Allegedly.

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DavinaBeaver · 20/03/2020 12:44

I would definitely resist if I was in love with my husband.

If I wasn’t in love with him and was very attracted to someone else I might be tempted if they made it clear that they were interested in me.

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Fromablokespoint · 20/03/2020 12:51

"If I wasn’t in love with him and was very attracted to someone else I might be tempted if they made it clear that they were interested in me."

That on my moral code is a very shitty, selfish attitude.

mamato3lads · 20/03/2020 13:06

I would sincerely hope so. We all have the power to resist someone, it’s a conscious choice.

If you’re not happy and you meet someone else and want to be with them instead then do the decent thing and end the marriage first.

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DavinaBeaver · 20/03/2020 13:47

I think life and relationships are complicated. Not always moral vs immoral. Good vs bad.

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StrongMama1989 · 20/03/2020 13:49

Wtf!

BrownWolf3 · 20/03/2020 14:06

Simple answer...

Doing the wrong thing is always easy. Resistance is the right thing, but the hardest to do.

If you gave in...what next? What is the outcome? Your ego and your penis are happy, but now what? Will she leave her partner for you? If she is that willing to give up herself for you, does it stop there? Or would she offer up herself to the next lucky guy? Would be happy to know that your wife is doing the same thing as you? Or would be angry if she did? If yes...what makes you so special?

If things in your marriage is not the way you want them to be...then look at the real reason...in the mirror. Because whatever problems there are in your marriage, I guarantee half of it is yours. The finger loves to point away from it's owner, and put blame on someone else, because that is wrong and easy. It hates pointing at it's owner...because that is right, and harder to do.

concertlover · 20/03/2020 14:27

I'm curious to know why you are even asking this question. Is this hypothetical man by any chance your husband?

Robin233 · 20/03/2020 14:50

I think this hypothetical man has made op an offer.
*
Is the man happily or unhappily married?
Doesn’t love her but settled. *

Op don't tell me you believe all that tosh. - read the script.

And sex without love soon loses it shine.

PicsInRed · 20/03/2020 15:11

Just throw yourself at him, no doubt you'll both live happily ever after and everyone will be totes ok with your true love, no traumatised kids, messy divorces, annihilated finances or smelly morning poos to contend with. 😍

DrMorbius · 20/03/2020 15:12

If I've said this once, I've said this a thousand times
Most men are with their partner until something better comes along