How would a man handle this?

[DavinaBeaver]

I’m fascinated by relationships and human behaviour which is why I’m asking this. I’m not having an affair.

If a married man met a married woman who he found attractive, physically beautiful, and they had a huge amount in common, do you think he would be able to or want to resist the woman if she made it clear that she wanted him?

I’m just wondering how much willpower our men have! Thanks.

"settled but not in love"

If this is how he has described himself to you then he probably would cheat - he is trying to leave the door open to cheating and also the door open to staying with his wife if his affair didn't work out. I think saying something like that is quite personal, quite revealing and sharing more information than a normal friendship would justify.

If he is looking for a way out of his relationship then he should be up front with his wife and not cheat on her. His wife will probably be better off without him anyway.

No, he wouldn't be able to resist. An attractive woman who was sexually available to him?? There's not a single man alive who would be able to resist that offer - men are incapable of controlling themselves, and it's naive to expect them to. Which is why it's really up to women to control the sexual fidelity of men. If your husband cheats, blame the harlot who tempted him.

Or alternatively :

Depends on the individual in that situation, OP. Why don't you tell us what you actually have going on, rather than some weird hypothetical?

Man here.

Doesn't matter how beautiful or how much we had in common, or whether she threw herself on the floor and begged, the answer is no.

I married my DW, I committed to my DW and I love my DW.

She deserves nothing less than her trust in me to be repaid in kind.

Some men are decent human beings and have the ability to say no.