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Original poster

After a second date, during which you DTD, would you expect a text the next day, like by 11.30a. or not?

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newlifenewname · 09/09/2007 11:34

Just wondering because I may have just messed up I think. 2nd date shagging is the same as 1st isn't it really? Or maybe I'm paranoid...

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Cappuccino · 09/09/2007 12:19

ooh she is a wise old bird

iwouldgoouttonight · 09/09/2007 12:20

Most people I've been out with didn't text/phone until about three days later (maybe I did something wrong!!) I wouldn't expect him to text straight away - like everyone else says, he probably thought your text was nice and a bit flirty but he's busy and will call later. I wouldn't text him again until he does though - you don't want to look too keen!

Thinking back, I DTD with DP on our second date and didn't hear from him for about four days so eventually emailed him and he replied saying how much he'd enjoyed himself and would I like to go out again. Men are sometimes more laid back about things than us and do things in their own time!

smeeinit · 09/09/2007 12:21

newlife,do you want me to pop round to confiscate your phone?!

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newlifenewname · 09/09/2007 12:25

Smeeinit - you are welcome to come and park your butt on your old sofas anytime! I'll do the coffees

Well, you have all helped me be brave in the face of my patheticness and I WILL hold on until later. I don't know if I could cope with not hearing for days - would automatically assume this meant a thumbs down so your expereinces are encouraging

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SimplySparkling · 09/09/2007 12:26

You see, this is the problem with texting. Words can be taken too literally. No tone and body language to help with the interpretation. For goodness sake, no more texting. Ooops, was going to say something non-PC about men, then! Just keep it to phone calls and keep it simple. Let him know that you enjoyed the date. Don't focus on DTD aspect of it. Do let him do some (all?) of the chasing. As long as he knows that you'll agree to the next date then hopefully he'll ask you out again soon. Hth. P.S. I haven't dated for 15 yrs so what do I know!

smeeinit · 09/09/2007 12:26

oh dont tempt me,i do miss my comfy sofas.....leather just isnt the same,i keep getting stuck to bloody things!

WelshBoris · 09/09/2007 12:27

DTD means "do the dirty deed" does it?

Am so glad I'm not on the dating scene there are enough acronyms on MN

Aimsmum · 09/09/2007 12:35

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unknownrebelbang · 09/09/2007 12:44

Thanks WB, was wondering what it meant, but didn't like to ask, lol.

turquoise · 09/09/2007 12:50

If he doesn't get in touch - don't text again, DELETE!

This book is the dating/texting/notbecoming a stalker BIBLE.

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newlifenewname · 09/09/2007 13:03

I will get the book turquoise - lord knows I need it!

Anyhooooooooooooow, he just texted: "Hey you How's your day going? x"

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Aimsmum · 09/09/2007 13:24

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persephonesnape · 09/09/2007 13:28

he looooooooooves you! he wants to kisssssssssssssss you!

yes, for gods sake, put your phone down for an hour.

39andcounting · 09/09/2007 13:30

Agree, do not text back str8 away, make the bastard sweat it out for a bit !!

I hate the uncertainty of new relationships, its a bloody minefield aint it !!

Dior · 09/09/2007 13:43

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magnolia74 · 09/09/2007 13:45

Yey!!! Glad he's text you

BoingBoing · 09/09/2007 13:47

Why don't you just phone him and speak to the guy? Then remove any and all capacity to use text messaging on your phone? That'll end any confusion and speculation.
Good luck!

macdoodle · 09/09/2007 14:21

Don't phone him my sis is a sarg and hates it when I phone/text her at work - they are usually busy and will all tease the shit out of him .....

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newlifenewname · 09/09/2007 15:33

Ok I just sent a pretty random pic of me doing laundry (!) with msg "not doing anything especially exciting but feeling really gooood, thank you! How about you?"

Left it about 2 hrs from his text.

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magnolia74 · 09/09/2007 15:52

You weren't naked in the pic were you

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newlifenewname · 09/09/2007 16:03

Oh, no no no nooooooo! I refuse to send nekkid pics but will do cleavage

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Dior · 09/09/2007 17:00

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twinsetandpearls · 09/09/2007 17:17

Is DTD did the Deed?

I was in bed past 11.30 and I have children to get up for and I wasn't up late shagging!

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newlifenewname · 09/09/2007 18:42

Am disappointed by singular text today after numerous previously. Doesn't he 'get' that I need reassurance after a shag fest?

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LadyVictoriaOfCake · 09/09/2007 18:56

he is probably shattered lol!