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Alcohol husband - after detox

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Kindpotato · 14/03/2020 22:12

Hi ladies, I'm really hoping someone can share their experiences.

I've posted before about wanting to leave my husband as he wouldn't stop drinking and, well, it was just completely awful. I had no money. No way of leaving. And he wouldn't leave either.

Anyway. He did a detox at home, the kids were on school holidays, I was working from home, I had 2 interviews (which I smashed) all whilst trying to care for him.

I got him dressed, changed his sheets, and was his full on carer.

Now after coming off the alcohol he is very depressed.

He doesn't love me. He doesn't love anything. He doesn't feel anything.

He doesn't know what he wants. But he doesn't want to go counselling. So because I've been stuck in limbo I've made the decision for him and said we need a break. He has finally agreed. So that's the plan.

Why do I feel so hurt.

He treated me like absolute crap, got us in debt, pays me nothing and leaves me with all bills, I've pushed away all my friends, I've had to leave my job and find a new one to pay more so I can support my family which is a good thing but it was hard as fuck and I start in 2 weeks with all this shit going on.

Anyway. I'm hurt. Sad. Angry. I have him everything. We got married and after his drinking got so bad he was pshyically addicted.

I'm lost. Alone.

Please someone tell me something good will come from this, because at the moment I feel terrible and heart broken :(

OP posts:
ScreamingLadySutch · 16/03/2020 17:36

FWIW @Dozer is telling the truth

The addict family dynamic IS NOT evil addict/wonderful martyred saint.

@Kindpotato one of the things that is taught in Al Anon is focus on the self.

DownOurAlley · 16/03/2020 19:32

KindPotato, sorry I didn't mean to come across as rude - I just didn't want my gobsmackedness to be directed at you too personally which didn't work anyway. The main thing is I hope there is good information and advice on this thread, good luck.

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