DH ‘just looking’ at dating sites. Would you be OK with that?

[DottyLott]

Apparently it’s the same as looking at women in the street .

No subscriptions paid. No evidence of messages sent or meet ups.

Do it show an intention to to look elsewhere? To cheat? Or just boredom?

Opinions please!

I'd be 'just looking' at divorce lawyers

Me too.

If he's deliberately perving at women in the street, that's not good anyway. I mean, there's noting to yourself without deliberately ogling, involuntarily if you see what I mean, that a stranger is attractive. But deliberately perving on people for kicks is a different thing, especially when married.

No. I'd also be just looking at divorce solicitors.

Did you really have to ask? Don't be a mug

Start ‘just looking’ at rightmove and divorce lawyers etc.

I've had this shit.

Yep, just looking apparently. At the pictures. Just like porn, I'm told.

Bullshit.

I never got any evidence of DH cheating but certainly found he had clicked on a few dating site ads and scrolled through he girls.

Great feeling isn't it. I had to leave it, move on, no other evidence so what could I do? I wasnt about to leave an 18 yr marriage and 3 kids over it, but it still stings to this day.

I had this with a boyfriend years ago. He said, 'Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean I can't look at the menu.' I dumped.

My arse ! Just looking for what ? I would put him and his belongings ( minus the his phone charger) on the street, tonight

I would not be ok with that either. Not sure why he thinks it's ok....bizarre!!

He'll probably still do it behind your back even if you asked him to stop.

@mauriceandalec

Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean I can't look at the menu.

Ugh thank god he's your ex, that made me throw up in my mouth a bit!

He is gaslighting and lying to you. If he was innocently looking which he isn't, he'd say to you, instead of ogling people on the street shall you and I ogle some random strangers on a dating app? See how ridiculous that sounds? He's a sleazy creep who is most likely presenting himself as a single man looking for something casual. Dating apps are full of them

Tell him "great idea" and set up your own online dating account.

Seriously, it's a prelude to cheating. He cannot be trusted.

Explain that when he's gone to work(say) and you have a bit of time on your hands, you'll register on a bloke dating site and when he comes home you can compare notes. 'Cos it's harmless fun, right.
No way he registered on line while you were in the room.

End it.

100% not okay!

Nope!

I like looking at dating sites but have no intention whatsoever of dating anyone on them because I don't want another partner.
I just like to see what's on offer out there out of curiosity.
Maybe your husband is the same. He's not trying to hide it.
I do it when I'm bored and I think it's harmless.

Noooooooooooooooope

And he shouldn't be perving over women on the street either, the creepy twat.

Errrrr no I wouldn't be bloody happy! Would very seriously consider ending my marriage over something like that. I think the fact he's trying to minimise it rather than being mortified that you're upset says a lot too. What a twat, sorry OP.

I just like to see what's on offer out there out of curiosity.

Why do you want to know what's "on offer" out there if you're not interested in acting on it? Genuinely don't understand it.

But madcatlady, you are on your own aren’t you after several relationships. That’s totally different .

But madcatlady, you are on your own aren’t you after several relationships. That’s totally different

Ah thanks to PP for clarifying this re @madcatlady - in that case then it's a totally different situation and makes perfect sense. Isn't comparable at all to someone in a relationship already going onto dating sites.

My DGM said that you need clear standards as to how to live your life and strong boundaries with other people. I would not be with a man who perved over other women.

Reasons such as this are why I sympathise with women on OLD sites. Married creeps looking for a cheap thrill are part of the metaphorical murky swamp they have to navigate.

No way. He's taking the piss