DH ‘just looking’ at dating sites. Would you be OK with that?

[DottyLott]

Apparently it’s the same as looking at women in the street .

No subscriptions paid. No evidence of messages sent or meet ups.

Do it show an intention to to look elsewhere? To cheat? Or just boredom?

Opinions please!

It's probably just a fantasy. I bet 5% of him wishes he is single because it's more exciting. It does not mean he will cheat.

Good god, this is so not the same as looking at women on the street!! What a git!

Not alright.

I look at the odd website with cats/dogs, amusing online clothes delivery fails, or tattoo disasters. Not men.

No! It's not at all the same as looking at someone in the street. It's pre meditated.

You don't look up a recipe for a chocolate muffin of you don't intend to bake a chocolate muffin.

No I wouldn’t be ok with it. Ask him if he’d be ok with you looking at other men on a dating site.

Erm no. Definitely not ok!!

Who does that? There are so many sites men can use for porn so this excuse is completely unacceptable.

He is looking because he is interested in seeing what his options what be if he was single.

Well if it's ik for him then you can do it too.
See how he likes that...

No way would I be okay with that!! It's a shitty thing to be doing and don't let him minimise it.

That’s what I thought!

Thanks.

Sorry OP.

Nope not at all. I’m single and I don’t go ‘just looking’ at dating sites.

Sure I look at Rightmove with zero intention of buying, at DogTrust with no intention of adopting. But would I look at Match, hell no! It feels really weird and letchy.

So even if he isn’t interested in cheating it doesn’t make it better. He is making women into commodities to fantasise over. Very odd!

All the NOPE!!!

Absolutely fucking not

Start looking at Hunks in Trunks or muscles from Brussels or any site full of different types Of men, all the total opposite to him. (If he’s muscular, check out men in make up etc)
Show him every bloody bloke after a few minutes of “oooh, what a hottie” and “yummy, big boy, what I wouldn’t do to you”
Show him and say, “isn’t he gorgeous?” Then when he says anything tell him, you’re only looking and apparently that’s not cheating.

Er no! Dating sites are for one purpose. Browsing the internet for pictures of good looking "celebrities" is not brilliant but unfortunately normal, tinder is a definite no

How did you find out? Was he caught on one or has he openly admitted it? You have to register with any site which to me means he meant to do it. I can't imagine any wife being happy her husband freely browsing dating sites, what planet is he on? And you can easily delete messages from your dating profile inbox so he may well have already messaged or met with someone. What an arse.

What a sad creep.

Looking at wimen in the street isn't acceptable either tbf.

Not ok

Please stay with him and don't release him back into the dating pool! What an a*hole. Seriously, keep him. And get him off the site before he goes around ruining other women's lives by luring them into a relationship - there's already one recent thread here about that. He's your bad choice of man, you married him, now keep him away from the single population as surely no other woman should have to suffer him.

I'd be 'just looking' at divorce lawyers

If it's the 'same as looking at women in the street' why doesn't he just stick to doing that?

It is not remotely the same, by the way, and there's 'looking at women in the street' and there's looking. He's cruising for a shag is what he's doing.