Is there any way this could be innocent?

[Itsmomnotmum64]

I have been with my boyfriend for three years, we don’t live together, we see each other once during the week and most of the weekend.

He has various health conditions and is prescribed Viagra by his GP. He keeps the Viagra at my house.

He’s always told me that he gets three packs every three months, but I actually read the label a few days ago and the boxes are labelled 1 of 4, 2 of 4 etc.

I was waiting in his car yesterday and I opened the glove box - there was the fourth box from the most recent prescription.

So he’s being lying to me all this time about the fourth box. Does anyone think there may be a reason other than the obvious one?

For context, I’m late 50’s, he’s mid 60’s, we met on OLD. I thought we had a loving relationship, although he’s never actually said as much - it seems I may be one of many ‘friends with benefits’

I’m seeing him later and will confront him - I don’t know what kind of excuse he can have, does anyone else?

I can think of lots of reason for keeping Viagra in the glove box, and none of them are good. I would be getting an STI check immediately.

Hmmm. Really don't know. Does he maybe like to take it before gets to you sometimes, or just have a box spare in case you two go away somewhere? Were any gone from the box? I would calmly ask him if he has extra viagra he keeps at home, and see what he says, whether he lies.

Perhaps theyre for some 'personal' time between seeing you.
To be honest, the lying is the worst bit of this - he hasnt been honest. I dont actually think he's been up to any cheating...

Aqua- I’ve already sent off for one of those kits from the STI clinic, so it was one of the first things I thought about.

It’s the lying that’s really upsetting me, if he wanted to keep a box for ‘personal’ use that’s fine by me.

I’ve had two abusive marriages and I was really enjoying being with what I thought was a decent man who respected me - but he’s just another liar.

Do you ever go to his house? Seems odd it would all be at yours?

Does he need it to masturbate? Not sure why it would be in the car though

I’ve been to his house a few times, but to be honest he’s a hoarder and his house is a tip. No sheets on the bed, not a comfortable house to be in.
I am more financially secure, own my own house, good job etc.
I feel like I’ve been taken for a right mug - I pay for holidays for us and his grandchildren, all the while he’s been deceiving me.

Name - yes he would need it to masturbate, he can’t get an erection without it.
He was on his own for 15 years before we got together, so I suppose it could be a habit that he’s got into.
That would be the best outcome, I suppose

That would be my initial thought.
I hope things work out for you

Thanks name, I feel like we’re too old to be playing mind games and hiding things from each other.

Perhaps ask him the question before making any decisions. There could be a perfectly reasonable explanation. If you get yourself worked up and think the way you are then you will make your mind up regardless of what the explanation is. He surely deserves the opportunity to explain if this is the only issues in your relationship......Unless there are other things going on you haven't mentioned?!

He masturbates when he’s not with you. Don’t overthink it.

But why keep it in the glove box and not at his home

He’s always treated me with respect, with kindness, tenderness. The only issue is that after three years I still don’t know if he actually loves me.
He’s had awful tragedy in his life, and he says that ‘those three words’ will cause the Gods, or Fate or whoever to take away someone else that he loves.

You sound like you're being taken for a ride. Why the hell are you paying for stuff?

He's giving it to a mate OP - either that or selling in the local pub - seen it handed around a lot many years ago.

Random - because his middle-aged son steals it. He lives there, that’s another reason I don’t stay there much.

No sheets on the bed?

Why in the car though if that’s the reason and not at home?

Well far less sinister that it's in the glove box. Presumably he has a high enough sex drive he'd happily have sex 3/4 times per week so masturbating at home wouldn't seem odd?

Skinny - I’ve got more spare cash than he has, and I like to spend a week away with him and the kids. He pays for the meals, petrol and stuff.

OP, surely there'd be tonnes of empty boxes in there - the fact there's one, suggests, as I have posted, that he's either giving it to a mate as it's expensive, or he's selling it.

Considering his health is so poor he has a very high sex drive, he would happily have sex every night.

Managed - yes, no sheets on the bed, or curtains at the bedroom windows. I haven’t been there for a year actually.

Venus - I suppose he could just be giving it to his son, as he would be stealing it anyway. But again, why the lie. I know his son pinches anything that’s not glued down.

Anyway he’ll be here soon, so I’ll find out.
I think the general option is that I ask rather than go in accusing him of sleeping around.

Dogging?