Is there any way this could be innocent?

[Itsmomnotmum64]

I have been with my boyfriend for three years, we don’t live together, we see each other once during the week and most of the weekend.

He has various health conditions and is prescribed Viagra by his GP. He keeps the Viagra at my house.

He’s always told me that he gets three packs every three months, but I actually read the label a few days ago and the boxes are labelled 1 of 4, 2 of 4 etc.

I was waiting in his car yesterday and I opened the glove box - there was the fourth box from the most recent prescription.

So he’s being lying to me all this time about the fourth box. Does anyone think there may be a reason other than the obvious one?

For context, I’m late 50’s, he’s mid 60’s, we met on OLD. I thought we had a loving relationship, although he’s never actually said as much - it seems I may be one of many ‘friends with benefits’

I’m seeing him later and will confront him - I don’t know what kind of excuse he can have, does anyone else?

Yeah I would just ask "so what do you do with that extra pack of viagra you get every month?"

Hopefully he will be embarrassed but tell you rather than deny and lie about it.

@Itsmomnotmum64 I do think he's giving it away - you said yourself, he's a hoarder, so where are the empty packets??

Belle - I don’t think he’d be physically up to doing it actually in the car.

At the end of the day it’s his medication- but one thing I’ve learned through my abusive exes is that I won’t stand for being lied to again.

Venus - that’s a good point. His car is full of old newspapers, wrappers, clothes, you have to sit amongst it.

I wouldn't say anything. I'd just count the pills in the pack, then count them again in a week or two and see if any are missing. If there are and if he hasn't used them with you (ie had sex but hasn't take one from the supply at your house), then I'd ask him what's up.

Why on earth does his son steal Viagra? Does he have ED, too?

Apparently they make you harder and last longer if you don’t have ED. But a friend of the son rang my boyfriend asking for some, so it would seem that he sells them.
They son is in and out of jail, so not a particularly nice man.

I was going to suggest that he probably sells them, plenty of customers around.

Thank you all for your messages, a few more things to think about other than the obvious- and I’m not so blazing angry now, I’ll try to have a rational conversation.

You can't possibly assume he's been lying or doing something bad.

You absolutely must ask him before jumping to conclusions.

If it helps....I do know of 2 separate chaps (both in the same age group) who tell me they use their prescribed supplies for “leisure activity”, alone, and both of them seeing it as a legitimate “hobby” 😂

This house is a tip, his car is a mess. Ugh that would be the killer for me and more off putting than if he'd been playing around 🤮

No sheets on the bed

I'm no housekeeper of the year, in fact I'm pretty casual about stuff, but this is a big red flag whatever the sex of the adult person. As is the fact you pay for so much, you accommodate him, he has a load of shit going on in his family background, he keeps viagra in his glove box ...

Could be he can't count, could be his prescription used to be three but got upped to four and it slipped his mind when talking about it, could be that the sizes it's dispensed in have changed from when he used to get three.

Could be any number of innocent reasons, but I expect the Mumsnet Ms Marples have already deduced exactly how many other women he's sleeping with.

Regardless of the viagra situation, the ober riding impression im getting is that you could do much better than this man.

I came across a man at my place of work who sold them..
Maybe he gives them to his ds to sell?

Maybe he needs it to masturbate?

Does the prescription say 1 of 4 or the boxes? If the repeat prescription form, then drs usually will limit the number of repeats until the next review is due.

you could do much better than this man

I agree with @blubellsarebells. The viagra in the glove box is just a little blue pill and a massive red herring.

Tenner a pill those things, or were the last time I heard.

My friend was a body builder and he used to take them
He said a lot of bodybuilders do

Why would you be with a man with so little self respect? Hoarding, no sheets, no curtains, deadbeat son. It's like you are looking for a damaged man to abuse you!