My 40th today and no card or text

[Iggypoppie]

... from guy I've been seeing on and off for a few months. I need to bin him, don't I?

Feel such an idiot for letting myself give a shit about anyone again after divorce .

Happy birthday.🍹🍾🥂

The sanitiser was all sold out so I got some alcoholic wipes. Well actually some alcohol wine and cider and presecco. I can dab it on tissues.

Actually I am drinking it. Have one on me. ⛑🍾

@cakeandchampagne
Thanks x

Have yourself a wonderful 40th birthday 🍰
Ditch the loser, unless he pulls out all the stops on Friday!
But he could at least call you today!
🎂 Big 40 birthday 🎁

Took myself to the cinema with a can of G&T to see Greed. It was brilliant. My friends have surprised me with a gift voucher for a night away in a hotel. My daughter,.dog and mum are in my home tonight snoozing away. Love comes in many forms, not just romantic love and i'm a lucky woman (also a bit tipsy ). Onwards and upwards. Happy birthday to us @andypandy81

That would upset me too. Although he might have something for friday when you have arranged to meet.

Happy birthday op! Have a few more drinks and you won't care about him lol

Happy 40th! Ditch the knob

Happy birthday!

Happy birthday Iggy and Andy lots of and and

Hope he's ditched by now. There's nothing he can do on Friday to redeem a non-card on such a special day. that plus the on-and-off thing show this isn't the relationship for you, OP, and your other relationships sound so nurturing, you don't need someone who doesn't care.

Especially as I strongly suspect form what you have said that he has tactically ignored your birthday to make you feel bad and have you 'upping your game'to try to prove yourself 'worthy' of his love, whilst simultaneously managing down your expectations. Of course, in fact he is not worthy of you.

@Iggypoppie.... please, never consent to seeing someone for whom you gave feelings on and off. Thats just another expression for him toying with you and your feelings.

He has not forgotten your birthday. This was a deliberate act on his part, to put you in your place, to let you know exactly how much (little...) you mean to him, to toy with you a little more.

Don't be his mouse. Never make someone a priority if they treat you merely as an option. Better to be alone or with real friends than a self-absorbed manipulator.

I hope you have now binned him off now OP!

If he cannot even be bothered to send a text to you on your birthday then he is not worth you wasting anymore time on him, life is far too short! Happiest of birthdays for yesterday

He's texted now, full of apologies.

Too little too late

What did he say? Why didn't he message on your birthday?

@thirstyformore nothing that would've prevented him sending a text.

He's just a bit rubbish then....tbh my Dh isn't great with things like that. Some people just don't see birthdays as a big deal?

Did he say anything about Friday?

A 40th is a big birthday. No excuse not to text. Its early days, he should be trying to impress you and he just isnt...... I'd sack him off to be honest.

I want to tell him how angry and upset I am but also feel what's the point? I have a party on saturday with friends planned and want to feel good and not let him overshadow everything.

Actually I knew my birthday would be 'make or break' time - that's why i planned things that didn't involve him. I'm free now to embrace the future!
I've made allowances so far because he has a lot of personal and work stress but this callousness is a step too far.

Im goad youve decided that.

I would see what he gives you to make up for this -and- -keep- -it- before I give up on him evil

how the devil do you do cross throughs???

Glad you binned him. Sounds like a bit of a mindfucker.

This, please listen to this: please, never consent to seeing someone for whom you gave feelings on and off. Thats just another expression for him toying with you and your feelings.

No more people you have to make allowances for, if you do, they're not available enough for a relationship. This is a great time to get some high standards.

:-(